Fake it till you make it and Positive Attitude

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Kraftiekortie,

Congratulations to you!

I also have had the great fortune to be employed consistently (nearly 17 years now) at my present workplace, also a library. I hope to smooth a few rough edges and make my new duties routine. I hope to make my 20th anniversary (2022) and to advance, in order to use my skills at a higher level.

In addition, I would like to continue my public speaking and leadership endeavors in Toastmasters, publish a book (either about tennis or pets), and stay active in tennis and the church, to continue to have a full, well-rounded life.

I feel like you, Istomin Fan, can do even better than you think you can do.

Kraftiekortie

Thank you for your support. You are one of most supportive people on this site.

I really do believe you have what it takes to be a success.

The key, really, is not to think of yourself as being "disabled" at all, even if there are some things which you are less proficient at than others.

I am certainly "less proficient" at certain things than "regular" people.

I was fortunate in that I really didn't have as many serious issues to overcome as many others here. They have endured homelessness, physical disability, substance abuse and medical problems and have grown up in terrible environments. I was just awkward and clumsy and subject to some bullying because of it. I found out later that many people did remember me in a positive light, even when I was far less social and competent than I am now.

LOL....my almost 85-year-old mother thinks I have lots of work to do. She thinks my "symptoms" are an "excuse."

The latter's a route I actively avoid in life, because my main goal's the former.
I'm no optimist, yet I seriously considered myself lucky. My environment and experiences dictates positive stuff, yet in nature I'm not.



And no, (OP), you're not cracking the NTs overall, not even close.
For NTs of your topic is but with another type and has specific ingredients of what makes a human colored or flavored that seems 'less dull, more authentic and successful' than autistics as you seem to claim or at least from your point of view. Some posters are already hints of these.
I suggest make it less specific; try knowing allistics in general first -- this is even less specific, before putting NTs in general into a microscope and play them around in inheritance, cultures, circumstance and environments. Don't focus so much on NTs with flaws that don't hold them back, they don't reflect the whole picture of what makes an NT.
You can skip the 'human' before 'allistic', but don't skip 'allistic' before NT, definitely don't skip whole NTs before the 'better' or 'worse' NTs. This seems to be a common mistake of attempts of 'cracking NTs', but it is not without reason.
Especially about theory of mind and emotions; these are not NT-exclusive, nor is exclusive to those without alexithymia.



Main reason why I accept this to anyone who does, it's simply because it's their own way and I have mine. Who am I to change another when it works for them, or that is it's their route of choice?

I'm also not your stereotypical alexithymic, logic and verbally oriented, 'awkward/overly formal' nerd-like aspie either. I'm don't even mask or have masking for a social work around. I don't have the 'dull' stuff, I have the 'chaotic' stuff that my past accomplishments and failures became meaningless, and will likely never reflect my future.

I'm pretty good at typing. I think I type at 86 wpm (I don't remember.)

Nowadays, typing speed isn't as important as it was in the old days. I type about 75 wpm. Though it's still important in some arenas.

Now...you should learn Microsoft systems----like Microsoft Excel, especially. Microsoft Word.

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And, using formulas, sorts and filters?

I don't think it's that complicated.

You can probably take a two-week course, and become proficient with it.

Then...there's Medical Coding and Medical Billing. Many more people are getting sick than previously. There's a need for people in health care.

Nah it's not complex. I've created conditionals b4.

There are some jobs where there are deadlines. Other jobs have no deadlines.

I prefer the ones with the deadlines, actually.

My highest tested typing speed was 53 w.p.m. 75 and 85 w.p.m. are impressive speeds.

You have sufficient typing speed.

I was thinking about how they try to build people's confidence instead of teaching a subject or a workplace competency. For me, that is entirely backwards. I only gain confidence when I can do something, do it consistently and have it become a routine, without it becoming a rut. Staying in one place without moving forward doesn't do much for me, either.