Fnord wrote:
Unfortunately, so-called "honest" communications don't always work. Some women (NT and otherwise) are creeped out by too much honesty -- disclosing too much personal information, too much knowledge and to many opinions can be a turn-off. Learn to use general terminology when speaking about your special interest, and minimize the details.
That may be, but the opposite side of the coin is that anyone who wants to be around someone like me needs to know that is who I am, that is how I act and spent way too much of my life apologizing for being myself. Anyone who would make fun of my interests is not someone I am thrilled about spending any time with.
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A little courtesy really does go a long way. At a restaurant, for example: hold the door for her; pull out her chair for her to sit; let her order first (whatever she wants, and don't object); pick up the check and pay it with a smile (especially on the first date). Tip generously (15% or more)..
I found the opposite in my experience: I am very "old fashioned" in that way and most women either took full advantage of it or they got very defensive and closed off, as if I was a prison gang member who wanted 'payback' for the nice behavior. I was a bit cheap on my first date with the Mrs. and it turns out she absolutely LOVED that about me.
A lot of this advice will work for "women" in general but am glad I found the diamond in the rough, the one who using PUA strategy on would cause her to roll her eyes before walking away.
I am not sure of your location, but here in San Francisco where I live, chivalry is not popular. In my own experience, the vast majority of women do not like when the man offers to pay, and some get offended. The same goes for opening doors or holding the door open. My mother is quite old-fashioned and I was taught to always offer to pay, open doors, etc. Here it seems like that stuff is not done anymore, but in other cities and other countries it seems like it still is. So I get confused on what I really should do concerning this matter.
30 Sep 2019, 2:29 pm
