Do you detest people stating the obvious to you?

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Well, I do laugh at such things quite often... although usually out loud.
Which can lead to enhanced irritation levels from the other human(s) in question.

To be honest the irritated thought I get these days is ”yes, yes: I know all that, can we skip to the next bit before my appetite for face to face sociability & capacity to cope with the sound of human speech are exhausted?”

I do get confused by the way the words “patronising” and “arrogant” are used.

How was saying I wasn’t much good at French and didn’t understand why I was in the top class for that subject arrogant? I’m not annoyed by this, and wasn’t at the time: but twenty-two years on the word choice still puzzles me.

Why does trying to explain the complex web of interlocking & competing jurisdictions in medieval feudal societies count as patronising when the person I was talking to clearly didn’t know anything about the matter?
Again, no irritation: bafflement at the word choice, what was it they wanted to mean?

What most people seem to miss is the *attitude* behind what is said.
Sharing is one thing,
But having a patronising attitude, while saying it, is another. <shrug>

I generally just avoid people in RL.
Problem solved.

Ahhh....
Mrs K has told me that I’m unreadable, and it took her a while to not just project onto me whatever intent on my part would best justify her own emotional autopilot.

So if the mere act of sharing x knowledge triggers a given individual due to whatever insecurity, they’ll assume I was purposefully seeking to put them down or display superiority?
Even though I only wanted to help them have a more nuanced understanding of the issue?
Because they just see their own insecurity reflected back at them?