At what age was it obvious you weren't NT?

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05 Sep 2020, 1:07 am

When i went to school- preschool or what it's called, it was awkward
the mob-thing started at elementary, keep yoor head down always, never say a thing, be invisible always
The strange thing is i liked going to school also,
but i had that awfull crying thing going on that made me very ashamed about me
People laughing, people whispering, people talking, groups, it makes me very nervous

You grow a bit over that at a certain point but then there's the grey block,
[you won't believe, do what you do after 40 and a platoon of retired goalkeepers gets energised,
:nerdy: the nation at stake :nerdy: when they're not keeping their overlord thugdom immaculate]
i like people better from a distance

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05 Sep 2020, 2:19 am

There was really never a time in my memory where I ever thought I was “normal.”

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05 Sep 2020, 7:53 am

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I think most autistic people start thinking they're different between 9 to 18 months old.

I don't know where you get that from. I don't think any baby of that age has developed the self-awareness to understand how different they are or aren't. They can't even talk at 9 months.

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05 Sep 2020, 7:58 am

From childhood's hour I have not been
As others were -- I have not seen
As others saw -- I could not bring
My passions from a common spring --
From the same source I have not taken
My sorrow -- I could not awaken
My heart to joy at the same tone --
And all I lov'd -- I lov'd alone --

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05 Sep 2020, 9:27 am

I know I felt different from the other kids when I was in Kindergarten and I remember feeling anxious but I didn't have a word for it back then. I felt different because I had a hard time when routines were changed or if we had a substitute teacher or any changes in our plans. I needed to know everything that would happen ahead of time or I got stomach aches from stress. I had some friends but I definitely talked too much like a little professor. Sometimes they would just walk away from me.

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05 Sep 2020, 9:39 am

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I think most autistic people start thinking they're different between 9 to 18 months old.

I don't know where you get that from. I don't think any baby of that age has developed the self-awareness to understand how different they are or aren't. They can't even talk at 9 months.

Many of the problems I've had went away after I realized everyone is NT. Since those problems started between 9 to 18 months old, and thinking I was different caused them, I must have thought I was different during that time period.

Most parents get frustrated, stressed, or disappointed if their kids don't behave appropriately. Most kids try to act better to please their parents. If you're autistic and can't act better but your parents don't know it, they'll keep getting frustrated and stressed at your behavior. If you sensed your parents weren't pleased with your behavior despite your best effort, you probably either blamed your parents for being too harsh and felt rejected or blamed yourself and thought there was something wrong with you. That's how people can feel like they're different at such a young age and probably why so many autistic people are sensitive to criticism (since their mind associates criticism with being defective or feeling rejected due to classical conditioning). I remember reading something awhile ago that said autistic people start masking their differences when they are a toddler (1-3 years old).

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05 Sep 2020, 9:46 am

Having recently observed a 9 month old, I find this plausible. The baby demonstrated social awareness and sensitivity in several ways. Just because a 9 month old cannot later remember being aware of something doesn't mean they aren't.

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05 Sep 2020, 11:16 am

Social and emotional development of an NT child.

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Not all kids develop at the same pace. But there are some milestones you can expect kids to meet around roughly the same age. See this list of social and emotional milestones at different ages.

Infants and Babies
By 2 months

Cry to get needs met

Occasionally self-soothe by sucking on hands and fingers

Start to smile and look directly at you

By 4 months

Cry in different ways to show hunger, pain, or being tired

Smile in response to caregiver’s smile

Play with toys by shaking them

By 6 months

Are more aware of which people are familiar and which are strangers

Can respond to other people’s emotions by crying, smiling, or laughing

Enjoy looking at themselves in the mirror

By 9 months

Start to show stranger anxiety

May cry when familiar faces aren’t around

Start to prefer some toys over others

By 12 months

Play favorites with familiar people

Are more interactive (like handing over a toy or a book or making a specific noise to get a caregiver’s attention)

Enjoy simple interactive games, like patty-cake and peekaboo

Toddlers and Preschoolers
Ages 18 months–2 years

Have more temper tantrums and become more defiant as they try to communicate and be independent

Start simple pretend play, like imitating what adults or other kids are doing

Become interested in having other kids around, but are more likely to play alongside them (parallel play) than with them (cooperative play)

Ages 3–4 years

Start to show and verbalize a wider range of emotion

Are interested in pretend play, but may confuse real and “make believe”

Are spontaneously kind and caring

Start playing with other kids and separate from caregivers more easily

May still have tantrums because of changes in routine or not getting what they want

Grade-Schoolers
Ages 5–6 years

Enjoy playing with other kids and are more conversational and independent

Test boundaries but are still eager to please and help out

Begin to understand what it means to feel embarrassed

Ages 7–8 years

Are more aware of others’ perceptions

May complain about friendships and other kids’ reactions

Want to behave well, but aren’t as attentive to directions

Try to express feelings with words, but may resort to aggression when upset

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06 Sep 2020, 7:17 pm

I was diagnosed with Dyspraxia when I was four, so can't really remember a time before then. I know that Dyspraxia can have similar traits to autism, so not sure whether I'm just dyspraxic, or have some form of autism/ aspergers as well.

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