17 Oct 2020, 5:06 pm
Pepe wrote:
Dear_one wrote:
Pepe wrote:
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I think autistic women are fantastic.
I would recommend 'capturing' one, if possible.
Good luck.
I think autistic women are fantastic.
I would recommend 'capturing' one, if possible.
Good luck.
My father "caught" one, and I think she was a huge disappointment to him. He put all the effort into the relationship, and still lost her as soon as parenting got tricky.
I'm sorry to hear that.
Yes, children would be a challenge for us.
I'm impressed with aspie parents that can meet that challenge.
I was actually thinking of my circumstance, when I was younger, where there wouldn't be children.
The other thing to consider is that "your" aspie woman needs to be enlightened about what is involved in being on the spectrum.
The need for direct communication and personal away/quite time, as examples.
I think I’m unique in the ASD community in that I love children. Before I was evaluated and diagnosed, I’d always been obsessed with babies, pregnancy, parenting, and I’d wanted children more than anything from a young age. I read a lot of books about parenting and child development for years. It was definitely a special interest for me.
I have three children and it can definitely be challenging with my energy levels and sensory stuff. I also don't connect with other parents well. Those have been the most difficult things about it, but I don't regret having children. If I meet the right person (I'm currently single) I'd consider having one more.
17 Oct 2020, 8:10 pm
martianprincess wrote:
I have three children and it can definitely be challenging with my energy levels and sensory stuff. I also don't connect with other parents well. Those have been the most difficult things about it, but I don't regret having children. If I meet the right person (I'm currently single) I'd consider having one more.
Didn't expect that because of your girly look but there are more autistic women here who have children. My kids are adult already. It doesn't last long an they are living on their own...
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Life has to be an adventure!17 Oct 2020, 8:30 pm
martianprincess wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Dear_one wrote:
Pepe wrote:
<snip>
I think autistic women are fantastic.
I would recommend 'capturing' one, if possible.
Good luck.
I think autistic women are fantastic.
I would recommend 'capturing' one, if possible.
Good luck.
My father "caught" one, and I think she was a huge disappointment to him. He put all the effort into the relationship, and still lost her as soon as parenting got tricky.
I'm sorry to hear that.
Yes, children would be a challenge for us.
I'm impressed with aspie parents that can meet that challenge.
I was actually thinking of my circumstance, when I was younger, where there wouldn't be children.
The other thing to consider is that "your" aspie woman needs to be enlightened about what is involved in being on the spectrum.
The need for direct communication and personal away/quite time, as examples.
I think I’m unique in the ASD community in that I love children. Before I was evaluated and diagnosed, I’d always been obsessed with babies, pregnancy, parenting, and I’d wanted children more than anything from a young age. I read a lot of books about parenting and child development for years. It was definitely a special interest for me.
Yes, I would say you are fairly unique.
This is the first time I have come across an aspie woman who has such a strong affinity with having and raising children.
I don't know how you cope.
I would be a terrible mother.
martianprincess wrote:
I have three children and it can definitely be challenging with my energy levels and sensory stuff.
I imagine it would be challenging for *any* single mother, regardless of neurology.
martianprincess wrote:
I also don't connect with other parents well. Those have been the most difficult things about it, but I don't regret having children. If I meet the right person (I'm currently single) I'd consider having one more.
"When you meet one aspie, you meet one aspie."
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24 Oct 2020, 2:06 am
24 Oct 2020, 2:18 am
Mona Pereth wrote:
It's possible for autistic men and women to meet each other within the organized autistic community, but that's a majority-male demographic.
Not, by the looks of it, on WP.
I am astounded by how many new women members have joined lately.
At a guess, I'd say a ratio of 2:1.
24 Oct 2020, 2:35 am
Pepe wrote:
Mona Pereth wrote:
It's possible for autistic men and women to meet each other within the organized autistic community, but that's a majority-male demographic.
Not, by the looks of it, on WP.
I am astounded by how many new women members have joined lately.
At a guess, I'd say a ratio of 2:1.
Yes, Wrong Planet does seem to have a roughly equal male-to-female ratio most of the time, and sometimes even a slight preponderance of women.
However, in my experience, and based on accounts I've seen elsewhere, local in-person autistic adult support groups tend to be predominantly men.
Also, from what I've heard, the autistic/Aspie-oriented dating services have a high male-to-female ratio.
24 Oct 2020, 8:18 am
martianprincess wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Dear_one wrote:
Pepe wrote:
<snip>
I think autistic women are fantastic.
I would recommend 'capturing' one, if possible.
Good luck.
I think autistic women are fantastic.
I would recommend 'capturing' one, if possible.
Good luck.
My father "caught" one, and I think she was a huge disappointment to him. He put all the effort into the relationship, and still lost her as soon as parenting got tricky.
I'm sorry to hear that.
Yes, children would be a challenge for us.
I'm impressed with aspie parents that can meet that challenge.
I was actually thinking of my circumstance, when I was younger, where there wouldn't be children.
The other thing to consider is that "your" aspie woman needs to be enlightened about what is involved in being on the spectrum.
The need for direct communication and personal away/quite time, as examples.
I think I’m unique in the ASD community in that I love children. Before I was evaluated and diagnosed, I’d always been obsessed with babies, pregnancy, parenting, and I’d wanted children more than anything from a young age. I read a lot of books about parenting and child development for years. It was definitely a special interest for me.
I have three children and it can definitely be challenging with my energy levels and sensory stuff. I also don't connect with other parents well. Those have been the most difficult things about it, but I don't regret having children. If I meet the right person (I'm currently single) I'd consider having one more.
I like children too, but I hated school and having children involves dealing with schools. Even if I home schooled, I would still want my children to socialise and would need to meet with other parents. So the main reason I won't have children, apart from being too unattractive to find a partner, is that I can't abide having to deal with the other adults that come with having children.
It's like when I joined borrowmydoggy.com. I thought it was a great idea to walk other people's dogs. I totally forgot that I would actually have to interact with their owners and I only walked one dog, once.
24 Oct 2020, 10:18 am
hurtloam wrote:
martianprincess wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Dear_one wrote:
Pepe wrote:
<snip>
I think autistic women are fantastic.
I would recommend 'capturing' one, if possible.
Good luck.
I think autistic women are fantastic.
I would recommend 'capturing' one, if possible.
Good luck.
My father "caught" one, and I think she was a huge disappointment to him. He put all the effort into the relationship, and still lost her as soon as parenting got tricky.
I'm sorry to hear that.
Yes, children would be a challenge for us.
I'm impressed with aspie parents that can meet that challenge.
I was actually thinking of my circumstance, when I was younger, where there wouldn't be children.
The other thing to consider is that "your" aspie woman needs to be enlightened about what is involved in being on the spectrum.
The need for direct communication and personal away/quite time, as examples.
I think I’m unique in the ASD community in that I love children. Before I was evaluated and diagnosed, I’d always been obsessed with babies, pregnancy, parenting, and I’d wanted children more than anything from a young age. I read a lot of books about parenting and child development for years. It was definitely a special interest for me.
I have three children and it can definitely be challenging with my energy levels and sensory stuff. I also don't connect with other parents well. Those have been the most difficult things about it, but I don't regret having children. If I meet the right person (I'm currently single) I'd consider having one more.
I like children too, but I hated school and having children involves dealing with schools. Even if I home schooled, I would still want my children to socialise and would need to meet with other parents. So the main reason I won't have children, apart from being too unattractive to find a partner, is that I can't abide having to deal with the other adults that come with having children.
It's like when I joined borrowmydoggy.com. I thought it was a great idea to walk other people's dogs. I totally forgot that I would actually have to interact with their owners and I only walked one dog, once.
Almost everything involves social interaction, which is why most people are finding these COVID restrictions so challenging.
26 Oct 2020, 6:03 pm
