I'm beginning to really dislike this board!

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I hope you decide to stay.

i agree spaz. while i probably will continue to post here, im not going to post as much. i'll continue finachially donating to this site though from this month onward because i think it does do alot of good for people. but im tired of people being just as mean to me on other sites but excuse it off as a joke. well i didnt think it was a joke and do you see me all, wheres by apology biotch. i dont go around threating people online with physical harm and someone wants an apology for me saying her p**** was fake on a website that has no rules. well guess what? if a website has no rules its my complete right to act like an ass reguardless of what you think.

also the whole job thing makes me angry aswell, i dont know how many times i was put down by my mom and stepdad for loses jobs, getting jobs only to lose them. So when i finally did get on ssdi it was a relief that i finally wasnt going to be through verbal abuses from people. boy was i wrong! also when others start compairing me to them, i got that constintly from my family. why can you be like so&so? he drives, has a girlfriend etc.. like i said, i dont have a problem with people tellling me what works for them in life, its when you start looking down at me because your miserable with your own life, and you wanna share in your misery. sorry ive had enough misery, i dont need yours.

so you can go on, thinking you are owed an apology and never forget about what i did to you, and you can go on thinking that im putting my hands in your pockets because im pretty much tired of your misery. be miserable, i wont let you make me feel that way

I went to your homepage link, and it stated that you're 16. If that's correct, then I'd have to say that maybe you took that post about not working too personally. You're not even an adult yet. I was extremely dependent on my parent's at that age. I think most people are. I believe you when you say that you can't work. I couldn't even handle going to school at that age.
Please stay. There's so much you can learn from others here. There's so much support to be gained from this site. Take what you can use, and leave the rest.

If you are only 16, Spaz, then in truth, I don't think the comments by Ticker even apply to you. Most don't work at 16. Hell, most non aspies don't work until they are between 18 and 24, depending on what further studies they do.
Even if you are 18 or 19, it still isn't a bad thing.

I didn't even start making my own money, until I was 20. That doesn't make me inferior. The fact that you don't have a job, doesn't make you inferior, either.

It's silly when people try to pass judgement based on what another person types in a forum. How can you know much of anything about someone you haven't met? How can you even make generalizations and judgements about most of the people you have met? I think it's impossible to know what someone's life is like without spending a significant amount of time with them, and even then, you're just guessing. People on the spectrum get judged and bullied enough IRL. I wish this site could be a refuge from that kind of behavior. Fortunately, I think the positive, helpful posts outnumber the negative ones. So I'm sticking around, but, spaz, I hope you do whatever you need to do in order to get through this difficult time.

Stay. There is an issue, persistance.

It is the only thing that works for humans, but it is often misused.

It takes persistance to get through the day, and to build yourself. Some assembly required.

Some take the first step and stay longer than they should, thinking a goal reached is the end of the line.

Finding what works for you is the first step, then the world will fall apart often.

Dust yourself off and persist, and you will find it easy to get back to what works, and gain some extra.

We all rise step at a time, most find a comfortable step and quit climbing.

I have, several times. The last took a flood that destroyed New Orleans to get me out of a rut. It was a good rut, but starting over I am enjoying the new model, it makes me think and persist.

I am back to reaching for my dreams. I may reach them, or not, but I would have never tried unless the old way ended.

Looking back it is a staircase, I stayed too long on some steps, passed too quickly through others.

I have a potential, and a life, they affect each other.

We are each one in six billion, and I do not have long enough to listen to other points of view.

I have one life to develop. Sometimes it has been hard, sometimes easy, but that was the world,

what worked for me was self improvment. Step at a time overcoming my boundries.

I find I have have been my own worst enemy fairly often.

Do not under or over value yourself. It is all you have, and it needs work.

The fool who persists in his folly, soon becomes wise.

Persist.

Spaz, maybe you should try an antidepressant for anxiety. I don't know if they're considered safe for someone your age, but you might want to check into it. It could be that anxiety plays a big role in your feeling so dependent on your mom. There's no question at all that people with AS mature more slowly than other people in certain areas (while maturing much more quickly in others). But maybe some meds would give you a little bit of emotional distance from your situation - enough for you to see the specific things that are making you feel so dependent on your family. Feeling that way is nothing at all to be ashamed of, and you certainly shouldn't pay attention to what rude people say OL or IRL. But please try to start looking at your life as YOUR life, and not your family's life. Start thinking about what you'd like to do with your life (school, work, etc.) and then see where you're going to need support and assistance in meeting those goals. If you end up living with your parents all your life, who cares?? My dad is completely NT, and he's lived with his parents basically all his life, heehee!!

When I read some of the things others have gone through, I realize I am quite fortunate. I feel guilty talking about some of my difficulties, which usually come in the form of embarrassing moments. I have a job I love and that I perform well, a good family and lots of pets. However, I was a late bloomer in terms of employment as well, getting my first real job at age 29. Before that I was a college student. I did well academically, but people wondered if I would ever be confident enough to handle employment. Luckily, I found work that utilized my skills and even some of my unusual interests.