How did you play with other children when you were little?

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23 Oct 2007, 4:09 pm

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I've read often times now that Aspie children tend to be bossy and dominating when playing with others and cannot accept any compromises (as far as I understood it). Is that true for all? Or could the quality of problems with interacting also manifest themselves in another kind of way? What is with the reverse kind for example, i.e. when a child is too passive, undemanding and/or quiet?
Personally I wasn't bossy when playing with other children as far as I remember. I mean, I often had firm suggestions on what to play or how to play it and wasn't too happy with compromises I suppose, but I could accept them.


When It came to toys I played alone, usually. I am very strict when it comes to toys. I beat a little girls head against the floor screaming when I was young because she cut off my Xuxa's(doll)hair. I think i was between -10 yrs old then. I slapped my cousin around when I was 5 for messing with my bday presents of lotion. Bit one of them when I was like, 4? Once I let all my cousins march out with my toys because mom said she wanted me to have friends and they said they would if i let them, that made mom mad telling me why did i go and do that that I should not have, and it confused me. I still have a thing for objects.

My mom always tried to hide there was something different about me I think.

Been playing an mmorpg lately, gettinga bit more social but i do really bad in groups of more than 2-3 and makes me start stimming.



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23 Oct 2007, 4:35 pm

I never played with any children growing up, always on my own, either with spinning toys, or lining them up haha. I remember my mother set up a playdate once at this girls house, and I just grabbed a bunch of the other girls toys and sat under her kitchen table and just lined them up and played by myself. She told my mother that she didn't even acknowledge me haha. Oh well, I didn't even start interacting with other kids until about 8th grade. I think thats why I was diagnosed with autism, rather then aspergers.


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23 Oct 2007, 4:42 pm

I was, according to my mother, bossy and controlling when with friends. I never had a lot, just a few I had round and went round to theirs. I only really had child friends until about the age of 11 when I went to secondary school and then things got infinitely harder for me and I found I spoke more to the older or the younger girls, and even teachers.

I always got on best with adults anyway really.



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23 Oct 2007, 4:42 pm

I was, according to my mother, bossy and controlling when with friends. I never had a lot, just a few I had round and went round to theirs. I only really had child friends until about the age of 11 when I went to secondary school and then things got infinitely harder for me and I found I spoke more to the older or the younger girls, and even teachers.

I always got on best with adults anyway really.



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23 Oct 2007, 4:45 pm

I can't remember but I'm told I played by myself. I was more talking to adults.



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23 Oct 2007, 5:22 pm

I didn't really have a lot of friends growing up. I moved alot and I tended to read to keep myself sane when the rest of my life was too inconsistent for words. I was the kid that always got picked on and beat up. Kinna scary, huh? I was always into music and that kinna saved me from worrying much about what the other kids were doing. I think it was high school before I really started to actually associate with other people. I was always more into grown ups anyway. Funny how things come full circle. Now I can't stand grown ups (hmm...they're now my peers) and I hang out with little kids all the time. lol.



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23 Oct 2007, 5:28 pm

I was either a follower, getting taken advantage of, or I played alone which was probably 90% of the time. I played with other children, but didn't really connect with them.


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