Adrie wrote:
In posts, most of you seem to be clear and intelligent. Are you like this when you speak in real life as well?
In real life, I am rarely clear when I speak. I stop, backtrack, and am always saying, "Oh, that reminds me..." and spinning off to another point, while people give me confused stares. This is when my mind is really going.
Other times I freeze up and can only think in the simplest of terms. At these times - when I am very nervous - my brain refuses to grasp abstract concepts, and I can't think of a single intelligent word to add to a sentence.
Only when I talk about a special interest with people I trust does my IQ seem to skyrocket, and I magically become articulate. In posts, I feel I am not always as clear as I could be, but at least I have time to think of what I want to say. And yet still I ramble...

kuiamalynne wrote:
I'm much clearer, and far more articulate, when I write. I have a difficult time gauging audience when I speak -- I never know when I've said too much or not enough, to be honest. So, I rotate between bouts of being super silent and super talkative, and I often feel like I'm monologuing at people rather than dialoguing with them.
I do know that, like many of you all, if the conversation subject interests me, I keep rambling on, and I do sound intelligent (at least, I think I do). If I'm not interested, I plain just don't know what to say, and, consequently, I say little or nothing at all. Sometimes, this has to do with processing: I want to say something, and I'm possibly even interested in the topic at hand, but my brain doesn't deliver words or ideas to my mouth fast enough, so all I can do is mumble.
I really identify with these two posters. I didn't read the other 2 pages yet, but I figured what these two said sums up how I am.
_________________
I'm selfish, impatient, &
a little insecure.
I make mistakes, I am
out of control, & at times
hard to handle.
But if you can't handle
me at my worst,
then you sure as hell
don't deserve me
at my best.
-Marilyn Monroe