Ever thought about paying someone to be your friend?

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04 Nov 2007, 7:41 pm

2ukenkerl wrote:

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MrMark wrote:

:) I think of my psychologist as my paid, professional friend.

There is a difference. A Psychologist is a licensed professional that is required by a state board to adhere to an accepted code of ethics and getting personally involved with a client is considered unethical and grounds for having his/her license revoked as well as possible criminal charges.

ONLY if you give them preferential treatment, take advantage of them, or do something that would OTHERWISE be illegal(like commit pergury, aid and abet a crime, etc...). To just be friends, or help in a friendly manner is certainly not illegal.

There is a difference between helping in a friendly manner and being a friend personally. For a psychologist to get involved personally with a patient is considered unethical and grounds for disciplinary action by the state board. And yes sexual relations between a doctor and a patient in some states is a criminal offense.

So you are saying that it is ILLEGAL for a psychiatrist to offer free advice, or even accept a friend as a client? That EVEN if a person was having problems finding a guy and you BOTH found one another wildly attractive and hit it off, that you couldn't get married? HECK, maybe she is depressed in part because all the good guys she meets are taken!

Frankly, such a law is STUPID. GRANTED, there are a lot of stupid laws, but WOW! Now if she was a nymphomaniac, or you came on to her, or she had a problem that clouded her judgement, that WOULD be unethical and a reason, but that IS only a small part of the cases.

No. It is not illegal for a psychiatrist to offer free advice. Nor would it be illegal for a physician to treat a neighbor/friend. But engaging in sexual relations with someone who is currently a patient is considered to be a violation of a physician's ethical code. And yes in some states, it is a crime even if the patient consents.

http://www.ama-assn.org/ama1/pub/upload ... a_ai90.pdf

http://www.advocateweb.org/hope/litigat ... bility.asp

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05 Nov 2007, 4:11 pm

I pay a therapist for conversation, every once in a while. I need it because I'm so alone. I'd pay for friends, only I can't find anyone worth paying for.

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05 Nov 2007, 4:14 pm

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I'd pay for friends, only I can't find anyone worth paying for.

Someone really worth paying for wouldn't take money to be someone's friend. :lol:

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05 Nov 2007, 7:56 pm

^ ROFLMAO :lol:

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05 Nov 2007, 9:18 pm

i wouldn't do it, but has anyone ever heard of a parent paying someone to go out with their son or daughter?. I read about someone doing it in some gossip mag here in a section where peoples write in about something they regret doing and will regret it for the rest of their lives. This mother paid a boy to take her daughter to the school dance cos the daughter was so sad about not having a date. however it did not work as the boy was laughing it up with his friends that he is only going out with the girl cos he is being paid to. the girl was in the dark re this and completely devastated. (all NT's here, me thinks)

I would never do that.

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06 Nov 2007, 2:10 am

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You are right. And what little self-esteem the girl had when she found out her mother bought and paid the boy off is gone.

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06 Nov 2007, 2:38 am

Paying someone to be my friend? Does not compute; what are you looking for in a friendship?

I could pay a girl to have sex with me, but that's really not what I'm looking for in terms of a girlfriend or soul mate.

Can I pay someone to be smarter than they are? Wiser than they are? Less judgmental than they are? Understand me better than they really do, or claim to? I don't know; but I doubt it.

There are some things money cannot buy. True love is one of them. So to is true friendship.

I re-pose me original question: What are you looking for in a friendship?

Good fortune,

- Icarus pays his enemies to be troublesome...

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06 Nov 2007, 4:18 am

Naw, cant say I have ever even considered paying people to be my friends. I am fortunate enough to have friends and family, what I will pay for is someone to teach me how to date proporly, i have a GF and really dont know what to do, and i think shes on to me :oops: .

heh, winging it is not working anymore, i cant make progress cause im not sure how to proceed, now thats pathetic!! hah

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06 Nov 2007, 4:33 am

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Er, no. It's not for me. I would never become that desperate.

I have to agree with this post here... although I will say as ****** up aspies who knows how desperate we can become however strong the individual?

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06 Nov 2007, 1:27 pm

i used to do it all the time when i was in school. youd be suprised at how many people will like you for your lunch money :wink:
now however i dont think so

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06 Nov 2007, 4:42 pm

Nope.

I have never been that interested in having a lot of friends. The few that I have had were all I really needed as far as friends went. I have had acquaintances drift in and out of my life over the years, but I can take or leave them.

I did want to fit in better, but I never felt much of an urge to be friends with a lot of people.

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06 Nov 2007, 11:45 pm

Mw99 wrote:

I know this has got to be one of the stupidest posts on this forum, but I have actually entertained the idea of paying people to be my friends.

I know, sad and pathetic.

I'm too stingy to pay anyone to be my friend, though.

that is pathetic, your a disgrace to aspies why would you stoop that low?

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07 Nov 2007, 1:04 am

flikr wrote:

that is pathetic, your a disgrace to aspies why would you stoop that low?

That is a very rude thing to say. I don't think Mw99 deserves that kind of insult.
Even if you don't agree (which I don't, either), you could try to be polite about it.

Back to topic: It simply doesn't make any sense to pay someone to be your friend. A friend is supposed to like you and your personality, and I don't think money can achieve that.

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07 Nov 2007, 4:13 pm

*SIGH* I've had a similar kind of crazy thought flick through my head. I've entered the lottery before when it gets up to hundreds of millions of dollars, and had the thought float through my head that maybe I could pay a woman to pretend to actually be interested in me/have a relationship with, and I could pretend to not know it was all fake. I couldn't really do that though because I'd know

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07 Nov 2007, 5:06 pm

I've been on the opposite side of this, oddly enough. While I perceive myself to be open to making friends, I don't have as strong a desire as I used to. I have gotten into what might be called friendships with people, only to have it become terribly lopsided, as these same people felt the need to give me things. I didn't know whether I should feel terribly insulted or terribly flattered. I'm talking clothes, gifts, and even telling me I don't have to pay back loans. One lady was left some money when her father died, and she sent me a large amount as a gift. I couldn't help but feel that these people were attempting to "buy" my friendship, which I'd already freely offered. These friendships never lasted, because I felt suffocated and patronized.

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07 Nov 2007, 11:19 pm

I paid someone to be my girlfriend for an hour once.

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