Communication styles intrinsic to aspergers?

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Inventor: Thank you for explaining your comment. I apologise for misunderstanding you. I am not good at picking up on humour. I rarely understand jokes unless they're pointed out to me.

My own writing style is very indirect - I acknowledge that - and I'm sorry if I confused you with my original post. I have a tendency to overelaborate my reasons for saying/asking things, for fear of being misunderstood. I think it's an overreaction of mine to having blindsided people with unexpected questions as a child - I've learned the habit of providing as much context as possible of my thoughts before actually asking the question so that people can understand why I'm asking and wont just laugh at me.

I have noticed in myself a tendency to re-use parables, phrases and proverbs in my speech in an attempt to make connections with other people. Where words fail to express what I am actually thinking, I rely on a stock phrase to try and convey something close to my meaning in the hope that others will know the phrase and be able to understand what I mean. It drives my psychiatrist mad sometimes when I do that!

I loved your description of "It was great to learn that it was not just me, that you are all weird." I think I will have to steal that. I love the idea of aspies feeling free to be wierd together. I think that's why WP feels so much like home to me.

wow, this is a wonderful thread, and i agree with almost everything.
I remember i thought exactly the same thing the first times i came on here; about people talking to themselves, or into the air. After 3 months of trying to fit in on an NT site it felt odd. But it's so what i like, none of the henpecking bird heirarchy stuff.
I also like how people don't tend to speak to other posters as if talking to an individual person except on rareish occasions, but instead look at individual idea/data/contribution. After all "personality" is what exactly? Some kind of illusion ! Replying as NTs, on NT sites, seem to do, to "people" as personalities ( in a sport of social response) , and it being an important part of the communication to have a consistent "personality style" feels oppressive to me.
The space to just speak without people taking it personally. Just explore without people thinking you're attacking them or laying down the law. The space to experiment with ideas and ask searching questions without people thinking you're criticising them. Most of the time anyway!!
And love how can speak in my normal language rather than having to restrain my use of vocabulary and talk in short easy sentences, in words of two syllables, because the NTs found my language use " offputting" , or "like reading an advanced textbook on psychology" and " a bit much to understand", and thought i should "get outdoors into the sun and have fun , relax , stop thinking so much" etc.
This site is WONDERFUL.
And the difference in post style is a huge part of its wonderfulness!

Guilty as charged!

Trouble is, I tend to post the same way on all the other forums I am on.

I would imagine that I am just as oblivious to the social cues in netiquette as I am in real life, & I'm sure I just "blunder in" by posting on random threads out of the blue.

I also tend to provide factual information when people ask questions to which I know the answer. But I have only once got to know someone in person from any of these boards.

I like this thread. It makes me happy.

My (ex) wife used to have to remind me to remember that I was a hellava lot smarter than other people. I would remind you that you seem to be dealing with some educationally challenged people on that other forum.

I love this thread.
I love that Myrkabah quoted my favorite line from "Star Wars", and that it was appropriate.
I love that the guy from the WoW forum used the phrase "flowery statements" twice in one sentence