Talkative Aspies

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And I don't?! What I meant was, imagine if you were looking at yourself talking to you. Think how what you say would sound if someone else said it to you.

I sometimes force myself to be friendly and sociable when I think I'm offending someone, but that sometimes just makes it worse cos they know I'm faking.

I guess usually I'm pretty quiet but then sometimes I'll just start up a conversation with someone I know and it'll go really well for quite a while.

EDIT: gah! I keep leaving out important words that completely change the meaning of my sentence!! !

I don't start conversations but if I am comfortable with the person I can talk them into a coma. Also, I can't make myself stop when I know I should stop. I know the person is done listening but on and on I go!!

I'm quiet until I get going, then I talk absolutley non-stop.

I, too don't think that it's different that some aspies want to talk and others don't. I heard from Tony Attwood's book "Asperger's Syndrome: A Guide for Parents and Professionals" that sometimes people with Asperger's want to talk on and on, and some other times aspies could be completely silent. It also states in Liane Holiday Wiley's book "Pretending to be Normal" that sometimes she couldn't keep her mouth shut, or (not in exact words) that she was like a dog that desperately wanted a bone (she's talking about her words); sometimes she was plain silent. I do that too, where I am silent, then suddenly I have this urge to talk that practically came out of nowhere. What I think is that people with Asperger's need to be with people too and want a social life, even though it could be smaller than others. Look at Wrongplanet for example, or other websites, or the fact that some aspies want friends. It's not the want that's missing, it mainly the how to make friends part in the real world. Even though sometimes we desperately want a slightly bigger social world or any size of social world, sometimes we just want nothing to do with the word social, which could sometimes lead to more or less talking (at least in my opinion). I mean, if I didn't have any friends I would be absolutely desperate, and I would be very sadand lonely. That's why I think that aspies need friends and at least a small social world, because people are desperate for people, regardless how many friends they would potentially have, which in our case would be a few because I've noticed that most people here typically don't like lots and lots of friends that you can't keep track of. But sometimes I don't even want to be social. It's almost like I can't even decide; but then I realize that if I didn't have any friends, who would be there for me in the hardest of times? I would cry alone and be happy alone and go through life alone, which to me sounds like a shuddering thought.

I'm paticularly loud, usuall it's my Mum who'll tell me to lower my voice. I get that from a friend on the odd occasion. I seem to have a problem with the speed I talk at as well alot of people seem to comment I should slow down when I talk. I can talk for hours on certain subjects; Final Fantasy VIII or X and music I like. I forget that the person I'm talking to hasn't said anything in ages and probably arn't interested anymore . My boyfriend will listen with his full attention for hours, I'm pretty greatfull for that.

I can talk someone's ear off about psychology. I tend to be quite talkative when I am calm and comfortable.

I can turn any conversation into an instant mini-obsession. I once had a half hour long conversation with my bus stop about how plastic cups are superior to glass ones. If no one argues with me though, I stop dead in my tracks. I prefer debates.

I'm so glad to see that people have the same sorts of troubles I do! Other people have blamed this on my medication, though, and I have done this too.
I tend to talk a lot when I am nervous because I want to please a person.
Other times I have gone to meetings where they know about my HFA, and they constantly comment on how well I speak. Little do they know that I will go home exhausted and probably be non-functional the rest of the day.

Well there is liking to talk and talking nonstop about your obsessions which no-one cares about.

I don't really like to talk, unless they talk alot as well to help keep the conversations going.

I don't really talk about my obsessions.

When I feel comortable in a situation my ADD comes out and I act very silly, often immature, and goofy.

I tend to talk a lot, too. Sometimes, however, when the conversation isn't that interesting, I'm pretty quiet and othertimes, it is nearly impossible to get me to shut up.

Dude, get me in a hyper mood (ok, fine, get me at any time other than when I'm being shy cos I'm surrounded by a big group of 'cool' people that I don't know and trying to make a good impression [apparently it happens on occasion...]) and the question isn't do I like talking, it's is it physically possible for me to shut the hell up!

I'm talkative like most people here. As I've mentioned in other posts, I am a college professor (tenured senior faculty --yay!! !) teaching composition and literature. I understand that many aspies who beocme professionally successful become computer programmers or college faculty. In college, one can talk about what one likes. I choose the syllabus and lead the discussion on things that I love, like Othello or Madame Bovary or post-colonial politics.

I do have to remind myself that it is essential to let the students speak as well and to express their own views. This does not come naturally to me, but I force myself to do it. I'm told, by colleagues who do not know that it is a struggle, that I do it very well, better than most. Perhaps that is because I am so conscious of it.

My two sons both have autism with severe learning delays. One, the younger at eleven years old, is quite low functioning, and does not speak at all, except for the odd word from time to time ("pizza," "pool," etc.). My older son )who is sixteen) focuses on
Disney videos and also likes everything he has ever liked, so he is equally likely to be thinking about Big Bird, Goofy, Batman, Star Wars, or Harry Potter. He never shuts up, about his own topics. If it were not for the learning delays, he would probably be diagnosed as an aspie.

So, I agree, talkativeness is often a trait of AS, but it is the drive to talk on a favorite subject, often with little observation of the response of those around us. I continually attempt to guage that resposne, often too late, but the trait is a positive for my profession.