Greentea wrote:
I find that the hardest part of dealing with NTs for me is that they make assumptions so much. They don't act according to their understanding but according to the interpretation they think others will make of their acts.
I think that social interaction is impossible without some assumption about the person. Of course, it is always approximation, guessing, but it is often very effective. Even science is impossible without some assumptions.
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Example 2: I don't smile when I see John. John assumes it's because I don't like him, because that's what everyone does when they don't like someone. He doesn't consider the option that maybe Greentea is a person who doesn't feign smiles and was having a bad day.
Sometimes it is better to have some typical "stubs" when communicating/talking and follow common rules. If you don't want to smile, try to do expression of face more friendly and/or say "Hi"/"Hello".
hartzofspace wrote:
I don't know how many times I have been accused of being angry, sarcastic, belittling, or mocking when I had merely shared an opinion! And then, when I try to explain, the NT doing the accusing, will proceed to say that I am just trying to cover up the fact that I was rude, or whatever.
It is because of the form of expressing your opinion is even more important than the essence. Sometimes it is better not to say what are you thinking.
25 Jan 2008, 3:33 pm
