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Reyairia
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04 Feb 2008, 4:15 pm

I started out being a loudmouth, but after a while my self-confidence was so dead after pretty much learning that every time I opened my mouth I made a fool out of myself, but I'm kinda coming back to speaking what's on my mind.



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04 Feb 2008, 4:19 pm

xyzyxx wrote:
SilverProteus wrote:
I usually don't ever say what I'm thinking, but when I think out loud, it's mostly not directed at anybody. Sometimes.

The way I see it, thoughts are private.

Does that make any sense? :?
That does make sense, but what I'm referring to in this thread is refraining from striking up a conversation with someone or responding to a statement they make.


Well then, yes. Most of the time I do keep my mouth shut and my thoughts to myself. I've come to value the privacy of my thoughts, sometimes I get the feeling that it's the only thing that's truly private in today's world...but that's me going off on a tangent again.


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04 Feb 2008, 4:27 pm

I know better than to say what's on my mind most of the time; it's usually not nice. As far as a "normal" conversation, I can only respond well if I know the person I'm speaking with well. It takes me a long time to be able to really just talk to someone.



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04 Feb 2008, 4:40 pm

xyzyxx wrote:
I've heard that Aspies usually say whatever's on their mind.

This is not the case with me, as I have a strong aversion to conflict and disagreement. Whenever I think about saying something, I analyze several factors and usually I determine that the possibility of starting an argument is too great and I'd probably be better off not saying it. I also have slow communication skills, which means if someone questions the idea I am trying to convey, I have a hard time answering those questions sometimes.

What do you guys think? Do any of you do the same thing?


I'll read the rest of the thread in a bit, but yes absolutely. I hold many things within because the outcome just wouldn't be reasonable: Do I want to fight? What point would that cause? Do I really want to argue? What would I gain? Do I really need to explain myself? Wouldn't it be easier to just end it like this?

And yes, the second part as well I can relate. I cannot debate with a person "live" and need time to think everything out before I say them. I must look up sources to better understand my answer and that is something you cannot do "live".



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04 Feb 2008, 4:54 pm

oscuria wrote:
Do I want to fight? What point would that cause? Do I really want to argue? What would I gain? Do I really need to explain myself?
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. This is exactly what goes through my own head.



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04 Feb 2008, 9:24 pm

I talk alot at school.

But I try to not talk at all around family because I always make them mad for some reason when I do speak.


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