Ever have "ret*d" days?

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Constantly.

oscuria...you are not the only one.

I do this all the time. I often will walk into a room of the house and forget why I even went there, so I just walk straight back out!

I usually go back to the door and place myself just outside it and remain calm, and I remember why I was going in almost instantly. It is going past the physical barrier somehow that blocks it out. Don't know why, but after figureing out how to get over it, I can at least stop wandering around.


Merle

Some minor epileptic seizures cause this kind of thing...

Yes . . . but I don't like the terms "ret*d" or "ret*d" and I do not ever use them in ordinary conversation. I am extremely distressed to see those words used among ourselves. To me they are like the "N" word.

Why is it that we judge people on intelligence to the point that those of us with lesser intelligence are considered less deserving of respect and consideration than those of us with greater? I know what a "ret*d" is and how you are supposed to treat one. This word and its connotations has poisoned--yes, poisoned--my relations with other people, including family members; it has taught me how to hate; it has taught me how to despise others and myself; it has taught me to lie, to deny who and what I am; it has taught me how to be cruel (yes, Aspies can be cruel); it has taught me contempt. There is a song from South Pacific that talks about prejudice and how children have to be carefully taught. Well I have been carefully taught that how I have been treated is how to treat others in return. That there are certain categories of people that one can mistreat with impunity and if I am not to be seen as belonging to any of them, I must make it very clear by my words and actions that I am not.

When we use the term "ret*d" or "ret*d" we are buying into NT society's view of us. And I need not spell out what that society's viewpoint is.

Sure I do, it's called Wednesday.

It's called "everyday" for me.

now, I understand you are a Closet Aspy. . .but some of us are not content with that stratagy.

"N"s use the word familiarly with each other. Hippies use the word familiarly with each other, too. Queers use the word familiarly with each other. b*****s call each other b*****s, too.

It blunts the word from those who see us as outcasts, as the 'other'.

Lennie Bruce used to use the "N" word because he felt that if EVERYONE used it, it would lose it's sting. Say it over and over again and it loses its hurtful meanings, say it in love and understanding and it heals every time the word was used for pain.

I feel the same way about being called and calling myself a 'ret*d' and use it freely in conversation. Make the word less hurtful by distroying it's power.

So I can be a ret*d and tell people I am one, too. I use the word proudly. Shock them into shame, I can say it, and I can use the term with my homies, but they had better realize they don't get to call me one!


ret*d LIBERATION ! !! Take back the word and release it from being hurtful by distroying it's power!

Merle

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who said evolution was tidy?

did we forget?

Sorry, what were we talking about again? Hehe.

Seriously though, I just had one of those days where the whole day was a ret*d day. I would go up to a display at work, and wonder what the hell I'm doing there. Like there had been a complete Brain Drain through the left ear or something...

I just moved to a new city, same job only at a different building, location. it has been going pretty well, finding my way around, getting settled. The other day I was just coming in the back door from the porch and I got vertigo and scared myself pretty good. . .because I had NO IDEA where I WAS. Nothing was familiar but my own stuff in the bedroom ( lamp, table, bed, my comforter, etc.) and when I sorta fixated on that, I brought myself back.

whew. . sometimes that happens. I get lost on the way home from work, or I have no idea what stop is mine on the bus, or I am talking with someone and I HAVE TO GO, NOW, right NOW, run, run, run!

and I have no idea where I was going, I would just go

Merle

Yes I am having a ret*d couple of months lately,I think because I am trying to learn some new skills and I am slow...that is what the word means and anyone who wants to attach a negative emotion to the word is the buying into the stereotype that ret*d=evil.*


I recall as a child being punished constantly for being "absent-minded"(where are my shoes)<I appear to have life long alshymers(sp) but no one ever cut me any slack like they do the "old folks".I lived in my head and had to be dragged out.They call it day-dreaming but I think if humans created a less hostile world I wouldn't have minded spending more time in it.Maybe this is more ADD than AS?Perhaps it is a combination,either way it is a major impediment in functioning the way the world requires in the 21century.(I think it might have been easier on us when we were sheep-herding?)Now we are required to retain more information then any other time in history and are constantly being fed new information...it takes a toll on NT or AS but becomes more of a handi-cap when you add in sensory over-loads and social interactions that have to be figured out intellectually rather then intuitively.




*I spent 4 years working with the "developmentally delayed" and I have a news flash...many are permanetly "delayed"..they are not going to be able to learn "certain" things over time...(which is what the term delayed actually means)...so that term maybe "nice" but it is deceptive and a complete misnomer as is "ret*d" ,for them,because the are not just "slow" to grasp certain things...they will never grasp certain things(Just like I am ret*d at economics....I tried and I dont get any thing but the basic concepts).That does not mean they have no value as human beings.Thats the problem with all these terms....not what they "mean" but how certain people treat people they call these names.Believe me,even many of the staff who used the term DD instead of ret*d had no compassion for these individuals.It is not your words but your actions that matter.

For myself my absent mindedness is definitely tied to as. I know when I'm overstimulated, I need to do something very details oriented, and not people oriented, mopping floors here I come!! !

Had one yesterday, had to keep asking the same questions over and over and over and now this guy I work with thinks I'm an idiot and an annoying idiot at that. He's started imitating me - how the hell am I supposed to react to that?

Your not the only one whom sometimes tend to forget but, more importantly my memor-related skills have been affected by a coma from many years back however, I do see a similarity with your post though.. Thanks for the post.


ProfessorX

Yes...all the time....there seems to often be a short circuit in my logic.

The other day, for example...Flakey had me cook pasta primavera....i told him I needed help or else the dish would turn out badly.....(I am either a very good cook, or a horrible one, and i was having a bad day)....He told me that you just cook the stuff...and that the vegetableswould just cook in the sauce....
My major flaw had something to do with combining the noodles, veggies and sauce too early...so the veggies were completely raw....to make a long story short, Flakey had to go back and fix the entire dish.....I told him that I needed help.

I spent much time that evening lamenting how "ret*d" I can be from time to time.

I have been called "ret*d" quite alot....joking and otherwise...throughout my life.