Siblings of Autistic Children.......

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Can you talk to your dad about it? The adults shouldn't be putting you, and your sibling/step-siblings in the middle of their arguments. They all need to get together, and sort out rules, and boundaries in an adult manner.

i cant talk to my dad about it because he dosent live with my mom and step mom and since my real mom is out of state this week i am stuck with my step mom so last night i was playing with my step sisters i was thinking about my paper and i dont see why some people think that they are werid i think they are the most beautiful girls i have ever known

I would keep her off the bus if possible, and try and keep her our of the lunchroom. Those are the places I feared the most as a kid. Or maybe you'll get lucky and the kids will find a better target or lose interest. I used to be quite pleased by that.

The only kid who got it worse than me was clearly gay or very effeminent. It's no consolation to gay people but it helped provide me a little cover. Being in a mixed school I probably would have been happier if there was more racial tension to distract everyone.

my mom married my step mom and now i try to make sure they are okay and that my steps sisters dont get made fun of and that i dont get made fun of and that my sisters is okay and my brother is okay and help my dad moved and i am only 13

i dont know if i can take this anymore

You are in a hard position. Stepmoms are always hard on the other kids. My son is 29 and his stepmom hates him. She puts up with my daughter. But my kids never lived with them. They were adults when my ex got married to her. But she hates me. My son has ADHD so I can understand what you are going through. She won't take the time to understand how he feels. Try to talk to a counselor about it. My son still suffers from the ADHD today. My daughter is ADD. My grandson has Autism. His other grandparents never see him. Keep talking to us. We are here for you. Try to stay calm. My son ignores her. That makes her very mad. She says he is rude. He doesn't care. He thinks it is funny and doesn't like her. She doesn't like him either. I shouldn't say stepsmoms are always hard. My cousin is a stepmom and gets along really good with her stepdaughter but it took a long time. She raised the stepdaughter. Your situation is a little out of the norm also so it makes it harder. Just keep doing what you are doing. We will help you as much as we can. Try to talk to your stepmom about it and explain it to her. But if she won't talk to you find a teacher or counselor that understands.

i try talking to her but every time i try talking she just yells in my face and/or cusses me out i dont get it i hate it when my mom leaves for work its like my house is a living hell for me i cant do anything because she dosent understand me like my mom dose i dont know how i can do this i am glad thought that i can talk to you all on here and have someone acutlly listening to me

In my experience, siblings of autistic children fall into 1 of 2 categories

Supportive: The sibling supports their brother/sister and helps out. IME it seems more common, or atleast the kids seem that way when i see them. One time a campers older NT sister told me she gets really really mad when someone picks on her ASD brother. To the point she had been in ISS for fighting a couple times.

unsupportive: The sibling has a strong dislike for the brother/sister's existence. IME seems more often when the sibling has issues of their own. One ADD camper i had said he didn't really hate his ASD brother, he just got scared that he was to much like him sometimes.

Generally age plays a big role too. When they are closer together, i think friction builds up easyer. But if theres a good amount of years between them ( 5+) they tend to at least live with each other.

so my mom came back home friday and staterday my step mom wanted to hit my step sister i hate when she wants to do that and in the car i put a picture ablum down it missed the seat and she said i threw it on the ground i stound up for myself and said i didnt i missed the seat dont talk about me if you dont know tthe truth i cant stand it then she wanted to hit me i cant stand living with her but i love her kids

its like my life is a living hell ever since my mom married my step mom i cant take it my mom didn't even ask how i felt about it i feel like i am soo empty and no one understands me if i could i would switch places with my grandma so she could be alive and i would be dead so i could finally be at peace