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03 Apr 2008, 9:35 am

I left home voluntarily at 16 and was married by 17. The leaving part was the best thing for me, but of course I had a safe place to go where all of my needs were being met. As a parent (I'm now 29) I cannot even begin to grasp how a parent could kick their child out for any reason, let alone one as ridiculous as this. I'm really sorry you're going through this. I agree with an earlier poster here - you need to tell someone.


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03 Apr 2008, 11:26 am

blackcat,
get someone to contact social services.


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05 Apr 2008, 8:33 am

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Last night I was kicked out of the house because we got into an argument about me not acting according to my race(I'm black but I act white...I don't understand the issue, it's just the way I am),she thinks I care more about my friends than my family because I went with my friend to the hospital because I was afraid she was miscarring and didn't get back until 8,and b/c I was out for ANY reason until 8. Then she threw my door open(later) to tell me to wash dishes but befor I could even leave my room she told me to just put on some shoes and get out of her house. So, I rode my bike to my friends house(very far away) got lost and had to call her. Turns out I wasn't lost...it was just so dark that I thought I was. I've been here since 11pm. What now? I think I may be more depressed than usual.


That's kinda weird, because I'm black and my mom allows me to act normal, but anyways I hope things will get better for you.



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05 Apr 2008, 8:37 am

No offense to you or your family, but accusing a person of acting "white" is one of the stupidest things I have ever heard.



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05 Apr 2008, 8:40 am

I sorry but you mum is very immature to want compete directly with your friends. It has nothing to do with race.

Is she a young mother?



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05 Apr 2008, 9:54 am

First and foremost, it is not your fault. Any one event, however small, can be blamed on a thousand different people if you want to play that game. However no good ever comes of doing so. In the end the only person truly responsible for kicking you out of the house is your mother.

My advice as to what to do next will resemble that of previous posters since they are absolutely correct. Stay with your friends, and be very sure that their parents know exactly why you are not at home and that you have already tried to go back once already. Hopefully this will help open up an indirect line of communication between you and your mother. If she eventually lets you come back home, then the problem is solved for the present. However if she does not, then my advice is to do the following:

1. Don't blame yourself, this cannot be stressed enough!
2. Be sure you always have a place to stay
3. Find a job if you don't already have one. If you end up living at someone else's house long term, merely offering to pay for some of the expenses could be the deciding factor in them letting you stay indefinitely. If you don't already know it, try to find out what your social security number is through any means necessary.
4. Stay in school. And try your hardest to get into college. There would be no greater justice then becoming more successful then any of your immediate family.
5. Don't get depressed over this whole situation. This might sound like an impossibility but you might discover that your actually better off in the end.

I really hope that everything works out. And one way or another it will, always remember that.



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05 Apr 2008, 10:37 pm

blackcat wrote:
Last night I was kicked out of the house because we got into an argument about me not acting according to my race(I'm black but I act white...I don't understand the issue, it's just the way I am),she thinks I care more about my friends than my family because I went with my friend to the hospital because I was afraid she was miscarring and didn't get back until 8,and b/c I was out for ANY reason until 8. Then she threw my door open(later) to tell me to wash dishes but befor I could even leave my room she told me to just put on some shoes and get out of her house. So, I rode my bike to my friends house(very far away) got lost and had to call her. Turns out I wasn't lost...it was just so dark that I thought I was. I've been here since 11pm. What now? I think I may be more depressed than usual.












...I just wanted to say I'm sorry .
I thought that I'd posted that before . (I guess not .)



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05 Apr 2008, 11:28 pm

blackcat wrote:
Basically, I am screwed and it is all my fault.


Blackcat, let me reinforce this - totally NOT your fault, at all. You have nothing to blame on yourself.

I am terribly sorry that this has happened, and my heart goes out to you. Hang in there, and definitely follow the advice of the many people on this board and look for a shelter or some sort of organization that can help you out.


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