Being treated like a child as an adult.

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What prompted you to tell the interviewer that you had trouble with eye contact and socialising? It probably wasn't a good idea to mention that.

Yes, I agree. People are too stupid to distinguish between the two. It really is sickening.

Also, people aren't sure what to make of my son.

equinn

it seems to be an overall disability thing,and not just a mental thing,people who have physical disabilities [wheel chair users]
have often been automatically treated like they are little children [which is fine if they are but it isnt when they are adults].

it says more about the mental ability of those who make these ignorant judgements,than those they are judging.

He brought it up. He was already aware of my Asperger's, and asked more about it, because my Asperger's support worker couldn't be present at the interview. He's the course tutor and he needs to know what my issues are so he can address them.

I'm not sure why it's not a good idea to mention it though? I need support with it. College is very difficult for me. I've told my previous colleges about it and they never took issue with it, they were only too willing to help me, so I don't know why this college/tutor should be any different.

I'm beginning to think that maybe the interview shouldn't have been allowed to happen once it was known that I wouldn't be getting any support during it because I obviously struggled and failed to say the right things...

I think you did great! You learned quite a bit about being your own advocate. You might not have thought about it, but the mere fact that you did it with out your advocate can be turned into a positive thing - your willingness to co-operate, your self confidence to step up even if your advocate wasn't attending, you stood up to it (as much as you could) and that is what made it such a good experience for you. At some point saying ANYTHING is better than saying 'the wrong things'. You showed you had moxie, gumption, and didn't run out screaming into the night!
rock on, sister!

now, go kick some advocates' ass for not showing up!

Merle

Thank you, Merle. I needed to be cheered up.

I never thought about there being a positive side to this, but I think you're right. It may not have gone as well as I'd liked, but at least I learnt a little about what not to do, which is one more step towards doing the right things socially.

I agree. I think he was attempting the irony of asserting that he is not too old, in a childish manner. Quite clever, when you think about it. :D I would give the benefit of the doubt on this one.
I do agree that no one likes to be patronized. I try not to talk down to anyone, and I always give a straight answer, regardless of age. Sometimes this can be a problem as well xD I am rarely treated like a child, even when I was younger. Perhaps because of my vocabulary, which seems to be a more common vernacular here.

Congratulations for putting a positive light on things :D it's not easy, but it always pays off :) have a hug *hugs* :D

That's a very good suggestion. I hadn't thought of that... I guess I just misunderstood him. I need to stop taking everything so seriously, I guess,

Thanks for the hug! *hugs* and thanks to everyone who's replied to this thread who've understood and given me words of encouragement.

doctors here always treat me like that and they cant seem to tell me anything about whats going on or even admit that there might be something wrong they always pass off everything as mental and have even tried to pass of strokes as a suicide attempt - have recently been tested for strokes and was just now told that what had was a stroke but the doctors before wouldnt test for anything they just call everything mental and even have problems talking to me they have to go through mom and dad to decide everything i am not incompetent and am 32 so treat me like a person not a piece of furniture

anyone else have problems like this with doctors lets email and figure how to stop it

I remember when I went to have my wisdom teeth removed they were looking through my file. A nurse who just moments before had been discussing Shakespeare's plays and their comparisons to real life suddenly started speaking slower and using smaller, simpler words. I was quite offended when everyone there talked to me like I was slow

I understand doing that if I was a young child but being a teen it was terrible.

I hate it when people do this! My mother does it to me. She treats me as if I'm five and everything has to be explained to me. I'm eighteen years old and she treats me as if I'm ten years younger than my younger sister, who is more socially advanced and capable at seventeen than I will ever be. If I go out for a walk, it's looked upon as some great form of progress, as if I'm doing it for the first time. It's deeply frustrating.

you will see my many posts all over just want to use the boards like a journal so if someone can help they can just post something or message me

my doctors are treating me like i want to have aspergers and they dont want me to have it but all these years they diagnose me with nothing but symptoms and tell me all the things dont have but when finally got one to test for aspergers they say my symptoms fit but they still dont want to write that name down but the truth is that they looked at everything else with my symptoms and could not make me fit in anything but this so looked up aspergers and found where doctors dont want to use the name since they think that saying it means can never do anything but the thing that keeps happening when dont say the name is that people keep picking out my symptoms that they like and try to force me to fit their ideal condition and ignore the rest and when they cant make me fit other things then they give up and say dont know whats wrong good luck to me there is no hope if not use the name of the condition the symptoms really are at least by not being afraid to say the name it will tell people who really want to help to look in the right place for giving me support

Being treated like an adult sucks. Enjoy your childhood while you can.

I don't let it bother me, because if I say ''don't treat me like a child'' the response is always ''well don't act like a child then!''

It was always the other way around for me when I was a younger teenager. I was treated like an adult and was expected to behave like an adult, and most kids would go ''wow, I would of loved to be treated like an adult when I was a child!'' but trust me, it's harder than you think. I wanted to stay a child for a little longer, I didn't want to be expected to be like an adult at age 13.

People treat me like a child, but that's just because I come across as innocent and "simple".
It can get very tedious at college when the tutor explains the material to the class as a whole, then comes and sits down with me afterwards (without me asking for help) and talks me through it in a very slooooow, calming voice, drawing diagrams with a felt-tip pen.