26 Jul 2008, 7:50 am
marshall wrote:
Spokane Girl is definitely correct. The lack of empathy thing is definitely a two way street sometimes.
I think average NTs have more of a sense of cultural conditioning for interests than I do. I can't make myself like something just because everyone else likes that particular thing. NT's are just as obsessive in their interests. It's just that their interests are usually things that fall under a category of "culturally accepted" while our interests don't and are thus considered "odd".
For example, NT's seem to obsessively like following particular sports athletes or celebrities. It seems weird to me that so many are interested in the same thing. Why is it okay for NT's to bore me with their talk of athletes and/or celebrities yet I'm not allowed to talk about what I like?
We’re only supposed to be interested in what the majority is interested in. That’s all there is to it. I say bah humbug to them. Screw em.
I think average NTs have more of a sense of cultural conditioning for interests than I do. I can't make myself like something just because everyone else likes that particular thing. NT's are just as obsessive in their interests. It's just that their interests are usually things that fall under a category of "culturally accepted" while our interests don't and are thus considered "odd".
For example, NT's seem to obsessively like following particular sports athletes or celebrities. It seems weird to me that so many are interested in the same thing. Why is it okay for NT's to bore me with their talk of athletes and/or celebrities yet I'm not allowed to talk about what I like?
We’re only supposed to be interested in what the majority is interested in. That’s all there is to it. I say bah humbug to them. Screw em.
Many NTs seem to be obsessed with majority / normality...
Maybe we're just different and, each in our turn, have difficulties understanding people who are not like us...
Therefore, maybe it's counted as lack of empathy when you don't understand the majority's point of view, because it's something unusual. But it's not unusual not to be able to understand "different" points of view (eg. of an aspie), and thus not counted as lack of empathy.
I'm not sure if I'm right, just a thought.
"Are the most the best - or just the most??" (Niels Hausgaard, a Danish singer and entertainer.)
BTW it's kind of weird that you lack empathy if you don't see a reason for shedding a tear over a sentimental film, a dead kitten or so, but you don't lack empathy if you're an NT kid that bullies an aspie kid for years???
26 Jul 2008, 10:02 am
