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11 Aug 2008, 1:55 am

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11 Aug 2008, 2:47 am

I would LOVE to meet an attractive girl with Asperger's... I feel like I could really hit it off with one of those. Besides the compatibility that would come from sharing the various aspects of this disorder, I could definitely fall hard for a sort of nerdy, quirky girl that sort of breaks the mold when it comes to what girls are interested in.

They just don't show themselves! I dunno. Maybe they're hiding, or maybe they're so integrated into society that they're invisible!



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11 Aug 2008, 2:56 am

Praetorius wrote:
They just don't show themselves! I dunno. Maybe they're hiding, or maybe they're so integrated into society that they're invisible!


likely the latter given females with aspergers can hide it better as they're still more social and other factors. And of course, GO TO PLACES THAT ATTRACT NERDS! Defcon, Sci-Fi, Anime, Fantasy, Gamer conventions!! LAN Parties hosted by a local meetup group!


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11 Aug 2008, 1:26 pm

I end up being very chatty as long as I can dominate the conversation, usually in a verbal pun humor way. Literally I can find the gutter humor in every conversation and I will turn it that way in an attempt to keep the conversation flowing in territory I know. If it gets quiet, I start to panic and end up leaving the conversation. If people are laughing, then everything is good. But the moment they pause to breathe, I'm afraid again. LOL

But I don't tell good jokes. I only can do puns and what I can only call Beavis and Butthead type jokes.

Husband: Honey can you put that long thing in the box?
Me: I'm not really in the mood right now. I have a headache.
Husband: I didn't say *BIG* thing did I?
Me: Notice I didn't say big thing either?

Oooohhhh...slam.

Odd thing is.. when others make those types of jokes I don't get them at all. Yet all the NT's seem to really love this type of humor if its being aimed at them. I don't get it unless I'm the one doing it.
(what type of "humor" is that called?)



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11 Aug 2008, 1:34 pm

I always thought it was more that the underdiagnosis of female aspies was more down to how other people treated them to how they themselves behaved. Men who are different are given attention (even if it's ridicule), while women who are different are often ignored outright.



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11 Aug 2008, 1:52 pm

Dragonfly_Dreams wrote:
I end up being very chatty as long as I can dominate the conversation, usually in a verbal pun humor way. Literally I can find the gutter humor in every conversation and I will turn it that way in an attempt to keep the conversation flowing in territory I know. If it gets quiet, I start to panic and end up leaving the conversation. If people are laughing, then everything is good. But the moment they pause to breathe, I'm afraid again. LOL

But I don't tell good jokes. I only can do puns and what I can only call Beavis and Butthead type jokes.

Husband: Honey can you put that long thing in the box?
Me: I'm not really in the mood right now. I have a headache.
Husband: I didn't say *BIG* thing did I?
Me: Notice I didn't say big thing either?

Oooohhhh...slam.

Odd thing is.. when others make those types of jokes I don't get them at all. Yet all the NT's seem to really love this type of humor if its being aimed at them. I don't get it unless I'm the one doing it.
(what type of "humor" is that called?)



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11 Aug 2008, 2:00 pm

Hector wrote:
I always thought it was more that the underdiagnosis of female aspies was more down to how other people treated them to how they themselves behaved. Men who are different are given attention (even if it's ridicule), while women who are different are often ignored outright.


Oh how I wish I had been ignored all my life.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but girls are not nice. They are as mean as boys, and since they are more mentally mature at earlier ages, they can use all that maturity for evil. You know how in the movie Carrie the masterminds of what they do to her are girls? Yeah. It is just like that in real life.



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11 Aug 2008, 2:11 pm

Jan74 wrote:
Hector wrote:
I always thought it was more that the underdiagnosis of female aspies was more down to how other people treated them to how they themselves behaved. Men who are different are given attention (even if it's ridicule), while women who are different are often ignored outright.


Oh how I wish I had been ignored all my life.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but girls are not nice. They are as mean as boys, and since they are more mentally mature at earlier ages, they can use all that maturity for evil. You know how in the movie Carrie the masterminds of what they do to her are girls? Yeah. It is just like that in real life.

I was just thinking about that, at the same time I've heard stories about girls getting ganged on and picked on. I've been witness to it myself. Largely, I can only attest to what I observe in mixed company among adults.



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11 Aug 2008, 2:15 pm

Hector wrote:
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Hector wrote:
I always thought it was more that the underdiagnosis of female aspies was more down to how other people treated them to how they themselves behaved. Men who are different are given attention (even if it's ridicule), while women who are different are often ignored outright.


Oh how I wish I had been ignored all my life.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but girls are not nice. They are as mean as boys, and since they are more mentally mature at earlier ages, they can use all that maturity for evil. You know how in the movie Carrie the masterminds of what they do to her are girls? Yeah. It is just like that in real life.

I was just thinking about that, at the same time I've heard stories about girls getting ganged on and picked on. I've been witness to it myself. Largely, I can only attest to what I observe in mixed company among adults.


Oh once you are grown, you are absolutely right. Most men are stupid enough to attribute any and all female weirdness to "hormones", so it is easier now than it would be for a guy. I have a male friend who is barely on the spectrum - he tests borderline between AD and NT, and he gets called upon being weird a lot more than me. But as a child, girls are more sophisticated and pick on behavior while boys just focus on the kid with the glasses.



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11 Aug 2008, 2:28 pm

The apparent reason behind my being bullied most of the time as a child was my frequent nosepicking habit, which I haven't shaken to this day. But I always thought the real reason I was picked on was because of my behaviour, I was strange and unpredictable and often tried hanging around with younger children and other kids were understandably uncomfortable with me. The only possible exception was in a school I was in for a year mostly populated by children in much less fortunate circumstances than me, many of which were from children's homes, and I just didn't stand a chance.

At least now I'd rather be ridiculed for my differences than ignored, because I know there's usually someone at least quietly listening to me and taking me seriously when I'm called on to respond. Being ignored I'd have no such opportunity.



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11 Aug 2008, 2:37 pm

Warsie wrote:
Praetorius wrote:
They just don't show themselves! I dunno. Maybe they're hiding, or maybe they're so integrated into society that they're invisible!


likely the latter given females with aspergers can hide it better as they're still more social and other factors. And of course, GO TO PLACES THAT ATTRACT NERDS! Defcon, Sci-Fi, Anime, Fantasy, Gamer conventions!! LAN Parties hosted by a local meetup group!


Umm, maybe when you do meet us, we're not what you think we ought to be?



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11 Aug 2008, 2:56 pm

Warsie wrote:
Praetorius wrote:
They just don't show themselves! I dunno. Maybe they're hiding, or maybe they're so integrated into society that they're invisible!


likely the latter given females with aspergers can hide it better as they're still more social and other factors. And of course, GO TO PLACES THAT ATTRACT NERDS! Defcon, Sci-Fi, Anime, Fantasy, Gamer conventions!! LAN Parties hosted by a local meetup group!


I'm the type of gal that would go to those, whatever I have as a dx, I'm called nerd/geek gal lol


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11 Aug 2008, 4:58 pm

Dragonfly_Dreams wrote:
If people are laughing, then everything is good...
But I don't tell good jokes. I only can do puns and what I can only call Beavis and Butthead type jokes...


I had forgotten that part.
There was a phase in my late 20’s when I told a lot of jokes that went over well.
(I didn't have a Beavis and Butthead style, but whatever works for you.)
I developed a reputation in the small office (accountants – what do they know).
I guess my place in the pecking-order was the court jester, and it worked.

I don’t know why that stopped. Maybe my style of comedy didn’t work as I got older.
Or maybe it will work again now.
Is a juvenile joke funny when it comes from an old woman?


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11 Aug 2008, 5:24 pm

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11 Aug 2008, 5:29 pm

Tahitiii wrote:
Dragonfly_Dreams wrote:
If people are laughing, then everything is good...
But I don't tell good jokes. I only can do puns and what I can only call Beavis and Butthead type jokes...


I had forgotten that part.
There was a phase in my late 20’s when I told a lot of jokes that went over well.
(I didn't have a Beavis and Butthead style, but whatever works for you.)
I developed a reputation in the small office (accountants – what do they know).
I guess my place in the pecking-order was the court jester, and it worked.

I don’t know why that stopped. Maybe my style of comedy didn’t work as I got older.
Or maybe it will work again now.
Is a juvenile joke funny when it comes from an old woman?


I have no idea. I know that my perverted type of witty jokes tend to annoy my pre-teen daughter if she happens to overhear. :oops: