Do others misread your emotions?

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People often think I'm depressed and they ask what's the matter, like what the OP said.
Or if I'm okay or whatever.
Only when I really am depressed, or upset then I try to hide it but then when I'm about to cry it's obvious people notice I am upset. Other times they are unsure of my emotions.
Since I'm not monotone and try to use facial expressions more, but sometimes I use the wrong facial expressions and they get confused.
Or sometimes I will not be looking at a person I am talking to an they're like "wtf"
Even when Im angry people think I'm going to get all murderous or something... even though I'm just angry...

But I've never had anyone think I was angry when I wasn't.
My neutral face is more positively emotional, as my left eyebrow is always raised a little and the rest of my face is neutral. So people never know my emotions when I am not talking since I'm always making facial expressions and so they never can tell what they are, but they know it's not something negative like anger or hate or w/e... hate's not an emotion... I think

Oh yes, I get misread absolutely all the time. It's especially common when I have a joke with my mum or dad and they just take it seriously and get angry at me for what's probably the 109th time that day for something I didn't even know I was doing wrong. Fantastic.

No and yes, the better a person knows me the less they're likely to misinterpret me, people who don't know me well do misinterpret my intentions though.

I'm the opposite, my strong emotions tend to linger, I can keep myself under control under strong emotional duress though, the longer they last though and the stronger they are however the more I feel like letting go though.



I see the opposite, most people expect you to have a strong emotional outburst and then forget about it (That's called a temper tantrum, or short depression period), people tell me I need to "let things go" because of my lingering emotions and thoughts.



My "NT" friends and family don't do that, they only smile when engaged in a conversation they find interesting or with strangers (I do that too), otherwise they're pretty "flat-expressioned" much like myself. The only time I'm usually demanded to smile is for pictures and I hate that, I don't like smiling unless I feel like it.

Quite often this problem is for me as, I've sometimes been seen as being mean-spirited or rude if, I don't seemingly tend to take notice of other people or their interests,hobbies,personal life,etc.. Realistically, I've learned the hard way that sometimes it's best not to intrude nor be perceived as being a burden to someone whether realistically or merely seen as one..In fact, over the many years some people have thought I was upset when such was not the case or unhappy when I'm not in such a state of being but, I do suffer from Depression so, in many cases I try to mask my sadness as, not to bother someone.Still, I try to do my best to come off as being a kindhearted,compassionate,overall-nice person...

Co-workers think I'm an angry goth that's going to kill everyone. So I have a mohawk, so I look blank faced. It doesn't mean I'm mad, or hungry, or pissed, or disturbed in any way. I'm being blank damn it, leave me alone to my empty minded state! I could be reading the newspaper and someone will ask me if I'm depressed or something...

Yes!

I have this lasereyed look I get when I'm focused, alert, or otherwise emotions are high...this always gets interpreted as anger.

And my "default" body language is usually to lower my eyes to the ground and look at a small area especially if I'm out walking. Apparently this looks like anger, or overly serious. Ack, who cares so much about a little quirk in my body language??

Yep! Me too, on all of this.

What Amik said about thinking deeply or fantasizing---well, I tend to make facial expressions when I'm doing that, if I'm not careful. I've learned to keep my face neutral when I'm around people who might be judgmental, like at a job I had once. The work was sometimes dull, or involved waiting for the computer, and I'd start thinking about things I was interested in. If my face showed anything at all, then it would like, "OMG, What's up with you? What drugs are you on?" If my face was neutral, then it would be, "CHEER UP!! !! What have you got to be sad about???"

Can't a person just have some thoughts without everyone having a cow?

Flippin' ay, I could spend so much energy trying to keep my face unnoticeable that it's a wonder I got anything done at all. (Come to think of it, I didn't get much done. )

e.g. I am not smiling, not because I am a b*tch, but because I am not trying to manipulate you.
Story of my life. Sorry if I sound bitter venting so much on here. I guess I have alot of stuff built up.

The worst misreads I get are from mechanics. I have horrible experiences with them. That is when I really feel the presence of my so-called 'male mind'. I just do not do the traditional female submissive gestures and facial expressions. It freaks alot of men out, but especially causes problems with mechanics for some reason. Because alot of times, I actually know what is wrong with my car. And that is what I want them to fix. And if they fix something that isn't broken, I make them take it back out of my car and I won't pay for it. They don't like that.