Do other Aspies Piss you off?

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I don't think I have known an Aspie in real life. I have seen their posts on here, they don't seem any worse than the "NTs" I deal with.
Where I live there is sooooo much black and white thinking anyway. Like, for instance, there are a lot of illegal immigrants here and soooo many people despise them, accusing them of entering the country illegally and living off the taxpayers blah blah blah. Sayin they are criminals for entering the country illegally. I for one, have no problem with it but nearly everyone else does (and I am the Aspie who supposedly lacks empathy?) It's the same sort of thinking, isn't it? I guarantee you it isn't a bunch of Aspies thinking it. These happen to be locals who want to complain and keep everyone away who isn't like them.

I don't know how uncommon the lacking empathy thing is or if their way of lacking empathy isn't compatable with the Aspie's or what.

And then you have the ones on here who are intolerant of the word "Aspie".
Sounds like an Aspie thing to me.

In my experience it's not just Aspies who are like that. Anyone can be difficult, arrogant, intolerant, ignorant, inflexible, hateful, presumptuous, rigid, angry, bitter...

I think Aspies do have a more difficulty playing the NT game, it causes frustration, the NT reacts negatively and the Aspie goes into black/white thinking mode and blames all NTs.

I'd rather be pissed off than bored. Maybe if Aspies piss you off so much it is because they refuse to accommodate you. NT's are more diplomatic and nicer, but they also pretend. They vent in other ways, like on the phone and gossiping about what they really think of you.

I don't think that it's better to have everyone act the same way and think the same way. You say that they are patient with you? What?
If they were real true friends they would just let you be. If you don't want to talk, don't. What's the big deal? What's the big deal if someone disagrees with you or if they make mistakes? Row your own boat.

Sounds like a lot of self hatred here

I have known quite a few aspies in real life and I have learned that both groups have good sides. I feel that for comfortableness and self-esteem validation I prefer aspies, but NTs offer a lot of fun, interesting company, particularly because they are different from me. I think the best thing to do is have both around and get the best of both worlds.

Very well said Nachtus01! I agree with you. -Power Girl

Yes they do annoy me but not all of them.

Some of them use their condition as an excuse to get special treatment. They don't even try and see other people's point of view or even respect it. They refuse to follow rules just because they are illogical but then complain when they get in trouble for it. Is that one of the reasons why they can't hold down a job?

They don't even apologize when they hurt someone because they didn't think they did nothing wrong and refuse to apologize for hurting someone on accident. They think it's their problem not theirs.

But not all aspies are like this. There are good ones out there who don't expect special rules or extra treatment. I would never go to the airport and expect getting this treatment of not having to pay to check my luggage on the plane and bring more than one carry on on the plane and say it's my special needs and then b***h about them not understanding AS just because they made me pay for my check on luggage and made me bring on one carry on.

There are aspies out there who do apologize for hurting someone's feelings.

There are aspies who do follow rules, even if they do sound dumb but they don't want to get in trouble with the law right, or lose their job, or even get a fine, etc. so they follow them.

There are aspies who do respect other people's point of views and try and understand it.

There are none aspies out there who don't respect other peoples point of views or even try and understand them, some also don't apologize for hurting people, some also break rules because they also think they are stupid. eg. not wearing a seatbelt. Some people think it's a stupid to have to wear one because they think the gov. shouldn't be telling us how to live our lives and if we want to kill ourselves because we were too stupid to use a seatbelt, that is our own problem not theirs.

A handful of the problems that were listed by the OP fit the bill with various friends I've had with Asperger's. I used to think it would be a lot easier socializing with my "own kind", but as it turns out, it's almost as difficult as, if not more so, than trying to socialize with NTs.

In the end, I prefer to just be friends with my own family members (and my favorite anime characters... hehehe)

LIke Cosette from Le Portrait de Petite Cosette? -Power Girl

I've known two aspies and they both said they have met other aspies and they were all annoying.



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Oh yeah and I have an aspie friend from Ohio online who doesn't really like the aspie forums because there is a lot of bitching and moaning he says and they don't do anything about it while he goes to the bar and tries to talk to people and not let himself be defined by the label but yet lot of aspies won't do that or even try and meet people and socialize. He also says they take things too damn seriously while his parents taught him to not take everything seriously and not talk literal.

I met around six aspies. Five of them never really annoyed me and one ABSOLUTELY RULES! -Power Girl

Ahh. I asked because your avatar pictures looked like Cosette. ITs a three episode anime and also a manga. I liked it. -Power Girl

I have never met one Aspei and countless NTs and everyone annoys me. I think it's because I'm an Aspei.
I might be an Aspei if nearly everyone on the planet annoys me