I don't want to be an Aspie. I want that cure.

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12 Oct 2008, 10:50 pm

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I cant imagine my life without my quirks. There are some I'd rather not have, such as stimming. But my special interests are what keeps me afloat. Take that away, & my life would have absolutely no meaning at all.



What you and 99% of people don't seem to understand is that if you were neruotypical, you would think completely differently. You would be invigorated by friendships, relationships, and things that you have no interest in now.



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12 Oct 2008, 10:58 pm

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I totally get what you are saying. I suffer from severe depression on top of everything so thats why I get these thoughts.


okay.

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I That happening over and over non stop for an entire lifetime is understandably something to think negatively about.. Unless you find someone to love you no matter what you will pretty much continue to feel sh***y about it.


to show this in detail, that is possible. this was from the ending to Space Battleship Yamato season 2:

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EDIT: it's surprising how easy it can be to make friends with fellow Anime fans and /b/tards at a bookstore (local bookstore, heh I did it at a local borders) or gamestore (again one locally in your neighborhood). Especially if you're wearing something interesting, like a domo-kun hat or something. A Japanese guy saw me wearing that once and stopped me during community college and asked me about it. I think he was surprised I knew about 2channel and Futaba Channel too :mrgreen:

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12 Oct 2008, 11:20 pm

I often wish I didn't have AS too. I feel there have been so many missed oppurtunities in my life because of my AS. I don't feel it's fair, but I've learned to deal with it, and turn my life into a somewhat happy one, despite my AS. I've also come to realize there are a loooooooot of unhappy people, and a loooooooot of people with screwed up lives, and many things a hell of a lot worse than AS. Because of that, I still consider myself one of the lucky ones. The people born smart, witty, attractive, healthy, with family who love them, and in a free country are the damn lucky ones. They have no idea everything they have, and take so much for granted. I think the fact I'm not perfect lets me appreciate what I have more.



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12 Oct 2008, 11:21 pm

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I want people to talk to. I want friends. I want people to stop lkooking at me like I'm strange. I don't want to be strange, but normal. Because of my social naivety, I'll be an easy target for used car scams and sexual solicitations. I want to do things NT's do. I want to behave like them. It would be awesome if someone programmed my brain into a NT. And if I had kids, I don't want them to grow up and go through the same things I did.

I have an idea. Think about all the people you know and what "normal" is. Then wonder if anyone is really normal and if they are, is their life really that interesting?
Keep the idea in the front of your mind that you cannot always trust everyone you encounter and use your detection skills to find the inconsistencies. This can help you keep from getting taken advantage of.
Sounds like you need one good "NT" friend. Is it possible for you to find just one? Not everyone is judgmental, unaccepting and bad. I had an "NT" friend for years and if I can find one anyone can.
Think of ways to find this one friend and if you can find him or her, you can accompany your NT friend to social events. I clung to mine at gatherings, concerts, movies. She lost her patience with me at plays because I would sigh a lot. One time her father went with us and got annoyed at me for sighing and she told me later he asked what my problem was and I couldn't give her an answer other than I was incredibly bored and had trouble following the acts.

Even with my friend I still had problems but nobody gets a free ride.
I felt uncomfortable being around lots of people. My entire CNS had this discomfort that made interacting with them difficult. I could be around them, just found it hard to talk with them, look at them when they looked at me, thinking of ways to get them to like me.
I could deal with one friend but everyone else wasn't easy. On the plus side, I got to go to lots of places with my NT friend I never would have gone to without her. Even though I didn't get the full social interaction, I still got to experience the going out and being there. So it did have it's advantages and disadvantages. I wish I could have done more to make more friends than just her but I couldn't get the drive and courage to bother with it.



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13 Oct 2008, 9:19 am

Okay...

Thinking differently to me, isn't a big deal. People tend to avoid those they consider strange. I don't know what's strange or what's normal to them. People don't like me picking up dimes and quarters off the sidewalks, or feeding ducks or petting other people's dogs. I'd like to walk around without other people telling me to grow up. Which is why I want to act like a competent adult.



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13 Oct 2008, 9:23 am

OP:
I have had bad experiences with people too.
There are people out there that will appreciate these qualities about you, feeding animals, finding money on the ground, ect. I see nothing wrong with these activities.
The difficult part is finding the people but they do exist. Not everyone will judge you harshly. Lots will but not everyone. I have faith in you finding a good friend and I hope you will try. It makes a huge difference having one.



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13 Oct 2008, 11:54 am

Oh my dear, you've always had the power to be NT.

Simply click your heels together three times and say "There's no one I love more than Paris Hilton."
"There's no one I love more than Paris Hilton."
"There's no one ......"


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13 Oct 2008, 12:03 pm

Chimchar wrote:
Okay...

Thinking differently to me, isn't a big deal. People tend to avoid those they consider strange. I don't know what's strange or what's normal to them. People don't like me picking up dimes and quarters off the sidewalks, or feeding ducks or petting other people's dogs. I'd like to walk around without other people telling me to grow up. Which is why I want to act like a competent adult.



You can stop doing those things then.


There have been things I had to stop in the past because people didn't like it and I got tired of being lectured about it, and getting yelled at for it. I have also stopped doing things people thought was weird and it was hard not doing them. I always had to think about not doing it. I even tried to change my body posture and had to keep thinking how I was walking or standing. Luckily there were kids in my school who were copying my moves (which I hated) so that told me how weird I acted so I tried to change all those things. It was hard work and whenever they weren't around, I acted myself but whenever I saw them, back to acting. Then I came to a point I just didn't care anymore.
I don't know if my body postures are still weird or not. My mother has pointed them out to me in the past in my teens and correct my posture.
If anyone ever tells me I am weird, I wouldn't even care.



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13 Oct 2008, 12:05 pm

There's no one I love more than Paris Hilton.
There's no one I love more than Paris Hilton.
There's no one I love more than Paris Hilton.




Hurrrayy ......letz go party duuude



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13 Oct 2008, 12:05 pm

Prof_Pretorius wrote:
Oh my dear, you've always had the power to be NT.

Simply click your heels together three times and say "There's no one I love more than Paris Hilton."
"There's no one I love more than Paris Hilton."
"There's no one ......"


:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Oh that was gooood!


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13 Oct 2008, 12:11 pm

Prof_Pretorius wrote:
Oh my dear, you've always had the power to be NT.

Simply click your heels together three times and say "There's no one I love more than Paris Hilton."
"There's no one I love more than Paris Hilton."
"There's no one ......"


Boy, if there were anyone I would've pegged to be an Aspie....



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13 Oct 2008, 12:32 pm

Prof_Pretorius wrote:
Oh my dear, you've always had the power to be NT.

Simply click your heels together three times and say "There's no one I love more than Paris Hilton."
"There's no one I love more than Paris Hilton."
"There's no one ......"


Hey, it worked thanks!

It's hard not to pet dogs that walk by. I love animals.



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13 Oct 2008, 1:04 pm

I want a cure. Pure and simple.



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13 Oct 2008, 1:11 pm

I read somewhere Paris Hilton has Asperger's Sydrome and that's why she was released from jail early. Her sensory overloads and other AS related issues made jailtime rough and she wanted to be around people she knew really well, couldn't handle being around that many strangers, etc.
Remember when she experienced a meltdown in her cell?



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13 Oct 2008, 1:18 pm

It is a slippery slope hoping for a cure for being yourself.
I've heard it almost all my adult life- an alleged "cure" for being gay (as though it were still a sickness).
Our western culture constantly drills in our esteem that our flaws must be cured.
I saw a documentary in which a few individuals with dwarfism had their legs broken and pinned in such a way that they hoped to gain 4 or 5 inches in height. The process is excrutiatingly painful and leaves permanent scars. I fail to understand how that is a better choice to just being who and what you were born to be.
ASD is not a sickenss one catches from shaking hands or drinking fountains. It is a neurological condition.
It's like trying to "cure" being left-handed.
You cannot cure a condition of being.

I think of life as a poker game. You play the cards you are dealt to the best of your ability. Those that cheat (pulling that ace out their sleave) get cheated in the end.



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13 Oct 2008, 1:27 pm

Apart from the anxiety and sensory sensitivities (a simple change will send me into "mute mode", and the world constantly stabs me with its sensory needles), I don't mind this whole Autism/Asperger's/whatever it's called today, thingy.