My mum tells me to "act normal"

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noone is normal

that sucks. she should accept you for who you are.

I wonder that your mum says so when she knows that you're diagnosed. She probably wouldn't tell you to act normal if you were dyslexic or blind etc., right?
(My dad said something similar to me sometimes, but that was before AS was even a real diagnosis).

I think you should tell your mum to use that empathy and theory of mind that NTs are supposed to overflow with. If they have it, then they really ought to be grateful and use it, right?

Maybe ask her to be more specific. If you are being loud, she should ask you to lower your voice. If you are interrupting other peoples' conversations with talk about your interests, she should ask you to wait until they are finished.

Telling an Aspie to act normal is like telling a blind person to watch where they are going.

Although telling her to go to hell will only make matters worse.

I might say that, good one.

I'm not gonna tell her ot go to hell I was regerring to the other parts of that post. Although like someone else said its something a normal teenager would do so I might say that just to make the point, but then again I doubt she will appreciate that, she never seems to get that I'm trying to make a point by doing/saying things even if I tell her.

I used to get this from my dad. He was convinced I was faking my symptoms for attention (especially with the Tourettes) although he is starting to come to terms with it now. My best advice would be to either politely have a chat with her about how bad it makes you feel to be told to act 'normal' (whatever the heck that is!) and if after that she still bugs you, just ignore her and behave the way you feel comfortable. As long as your behaviour isn't causing physical harm to anyone, why change?

Telling an aspie to act NT is like telling a gay person to get into an opposite sex relationship and be attracted to the opposite sex. Many parents of gay people have tried to get their kids into opposite sex relationships. It's just stupid. Same with telling an aspie to be an NT.

Ask her how you're supossed to act like a setting on the washing machine.

These apply to some people I know.lol

They aren't bad people though.

Oh dear, no wonder why others lose patience and are irritated by them.

Last edited by AmberEyes on 12 Dec 2008, 2:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I agree with the people who say "Ask her to be specific". If she's using "normal" as some kind of catch-all for doing what she wants, then she's assuming you KNOW what she wants, which is obviously not true because how are you supposed to read her mind? This should be in Aspie 101: Be specific when you communicate. Don't expect them to know what you feel and think unless you say what you feel and think. I guess Mom needs a bit of education... maybe if you're careful about it, you can inform her.