"Attention neckbeards: you do not have asperger syndrom

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I did not get my assessment from wikipedia. AS certainly wasn't a "cool" thing to have when I was little. I'm also concerned that some people who have no issues with reciprocal discussion (especially intelligent and chatty geeks) are using their dx as a "get out clause". I feel angry about this because all my life I've had to hide my AS dx to protect my own reputation. I had to find out most social things the hard way.

I can make presentations because I'm talking to one unit of people who sit quietly and listen. A presentation is essentially a glorified monologue. I agree that everyone gets nervous before presentations, even the most confident people.

The thing is, I can do and prepare presentations to a script (many people have commented on how good my presentations are). But I can't seem to do the "coffee and cake" mingling part after I've finished. Someone else always has to come up and ask me questions. Hence, I would find the chatting part of conferences harder than doing the presentation itself.

I can't seem to "sync-up" or "join in" with other very people very well in discussions.
I seem to be able to do my own thing very easily. That's why I found scat singing very easy and enjoyable in music lessons. Everyone else was too scared to scat sing. However, I find keeping in time with others in a band/choir situation almost impossible. I'm always slightly out of sync.

I really try to join in and my brain is working at full capacity to try and keep up with the discussion. I still miss opportunities to speak and get my point of view across though. This is frustrating when I'm forced into a team working environment. I seem to have my own agenda and the rest of the group has theirs. Unless I'm put in charge of the group, tensions can run very high and productivity decreases. I feel very nervous when I can't control all the aspects of a project because I know from bitter experience that some people are not prepared to "pull their own weight".

I've always been perplexed by how easily some people can just mingle and chat in group discussions.
How do they do this?

It seems like more childish behavior from NTs. "You mean you can't help it?! Now I feel sad...and it's YOUR FAULT!"

I don't mean ALL NTs. In case someone comes here, and starts having a temper tantrum that I didn't say some NTs.

I can dig this. I get it a lot. It gets tiring, but you learn to ignore it and get on with your Aspie life.