How many people do you really love?

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I have a hard time defining "love". The word gets used a lot. It's obvious that it means different things in different situations - that there are a lot of different kinds of "love".

I cannot tabulate how many people I love because I do not know which definition(s) are included in the question. And even if I knew, it would be hard to say.

why depressing? don't know about you but I go for quality not quantity

So many people not being able to define it well enough to say that they love someone. I love my family, and would do anything for them. I personally need to find a companion that I can love, who is not apart of my family. My love for my family is hard for me to express, as it is odd for me to be physical with my love for them, apart from the 5 year old, as if I were to hug them when I want to, which quite often I do, it would cinfuse them so very much, especially my dad, who has for the longest time thought of me as gay, and it took quite a bit to convince him of the fact that I am not into men, and would prefer a woman. I do like the touch aspect of love, and based on how my family is, the touch aspect is for bf/gf and parent/sibling to the child/sibling who is 7 or under. Par t of me wanting the physical aspect is just from being seperated from them for so long while being at university.

I don't love my family. I used to love my husband but he doesn't treat me very nicely. So I can't really say that I do love him anymore. I am very black-and-white and love is an absolute to me.

So, out of curiosity, how do you tell if you love someone or not?

Some people do not want to be loved. I have learned to be careful and cautious with others. I don't assume everyone will like me, want me around, want my kind gestures, company, friendship. When someone doesn't want you around and you bug them they let you know in treacherous ways they don't approve of you.

I know that I love someone when thinking of them makes me happy and it is all that I want to do. You might say that when I love someone, they become my special interest. My entire life revolves around those that I love and I am always thinking of them, thinking about what I can do to make them happy, putting them ahead of what I want. I always want them around at all times and I would never intentionally do anything to hurt them. Conversely, someone who loves me is expected to do the same.

i don't love very many people. I have been to family funerals and everyone else is experiencing massive grief and loss and i am the aspie who is laughing uncontrollably and making jokes in the pew. I am usually doing a "fang-claw" sign at my adult siblings and they are telling me to shut up and then through the tears they will giggle and i will somehow feel as if the job is done. i do not know why. it is just how i process things. i have cried at one funeral though. it was a family friend.



i love my son. i know that.

I guess I'm too alexithymic for this thread.

3: My mom, my dad and my younger brother.

i would call that a valid contribution indeed

[sigh]

I don't think you can truly love someone else until you learn to love yourself which is something I'm working at. So I would have to say at the moment none apart from maybe my cat who will always have my unconditional love.

^ People always say that but I don't understand how the two ideas relate.

In terms of people that I say "I love you" to, only maybe one. I did not grow up around my father, saying I love you to my step father did not fit. As for my mother with how I was raised I neevr really did, I am not sure as to why. The only person I say that to is my grandmother because she says it to me.

Now for my exgirlfriend, two weeks after we started to go out much less even knew each other she immidietly was like "omg I love you". And it was hard for me to say it back because, well I knew I cared about her, but I thought it was too soon to be saying that, but as things grew, I knew I did love her.

My mother is really the only person I love. Sure I love my dad and my sister.. but I have more love for my mum.

Uh.... REALLY?? not just a little bit, but actually really love?
maybe 2 or 3.
My son. His mom, to a degree.
Certain family members, to a degree.
Come to think of it, my son is the only one that really I unconditionally love.
Everyone else has some distance between themselves and me.
Hmm.........................