Poof! All of a sudden I have social skills.

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I'm happy for the original poster (whose nickname I forgot)!

I felt like I suddenly became more social during my senior year of high school. It seemed to be a combination of me becoming more interested in what other people were doing/talking about (instead of being off in my own little world), and everyone realizing that this would be our last year together before we graduated (so we all wanted to make the most of it). I remember people telling me "Wow, you have really changed this year, bcman," and that really felt good.



It's a little bittersweet as I look back on it now, because I kind of went back in my shell when I went to college because of having to keep track of a lot more things on my own. I felt like I was just starting to get to know my classmates from school, and then school was over and we all went our separate ways. It doesn't seem as easy to make friends now that I'm an adult; I'm no longer around the same people nearly every day.

I also believe it. I've been working hard for a year at getting to know people with common interests, and I've come a long way myself. I'll be 27 next month, and I am comfortable with myself and feel confident for the first time in my life- a big improvement. My self esteem is higher than ever, so, Congratulations!

i got better with social skills aswell but then sometimes something will knock my confidence and self esteem and ill want to avoid as much social interactions as i can
i agree with sora your anxiety can make all the difference i suppose im just really bad with dealing with it

I've found that my level of social skill is extremely dependent on the type of people I'm around. I don't know how to force myself to be social when the people around me have nothing in common with me. I just don't have anything to say. When I'm with a bunch of people discussing a common interest I almost forget that I'm any different.

That's how I am. I really had to work at getting better with my social skills.

My thoughts exactly.

I don't find it surprising at all.

I'm extremely good around people, for short periods of time. I've had a few jobs that had me talking to lots of people and even a few cold-call jobs.

My end of day anxiety levels from situations like that are not worth it for me and my family.



SO.... though I do well socially, I do try to keep things to a minimum and everything seems to work out well.

Me too. I think I'm better around people that I feel comfortable with, that I've talked to on 4-5 separate occasions.
And it does have a lot to do with interests, age and it helps if they're not as quiet as me. I'm good talking to one person but never a group of people.

Most people don't know what a cold call is. From what I know a cold call is a form of telemarketing where a number is called without any knowledge of who the person is other than they are on the phone list. This means that the person being called is on a list of numbers that the employer knows nothing about the people on the list, other than possible demographic information, and of course a name. Telemarketing is actually a good thing to have happen, depending on the group calling. If someone calls trying to convince you that your house windows need replacing, that is unacceptable. If someone calls trying to sell you something you actually need, or that you are in the common group that actually needs the product/service, that is acceptable. Chairties should not be allowed to call anyone without that persons prior permission. Same with politicians.

Well I do have a bit of a superiority complex coming along. I don't find any1 intimidating and in my own opinion, I am the most amazing looking guy ever(with my long wavy red hairXD)...Maybe it is just the anxiety. Well, I'm glad I've conquered my fears.

Spending more time with people definitely improves your social skills and makes you more socially aware. But don't fool yourself, awareness isn't the same as knowledge. Social skills take a LONG ass time to improve.

Good to hear your anxiety is gone though. That's the thing that f***s you up the most.

the closest that I have ever been toward socially "normal" was when I was 12-14. Then everything fell apart. It was almost like over night that all that i had gained dissappeared. This is when I hit puberty.