marshall wrote:
Sora wrote:
The only reason for being around people I do not like is because I feel there's a good reason to be around them.
If that happens, I act perfectly normal. Apparently, too normal.
Those people often appear to be confused and unlike me, behave in a way that is very rude and passive aggressive.
This reaction usually amuses me. I don't find it too hard to act nice and civil towards those who hate me and whom I hate back.
That's because I am not particularly interested about personal relationships. If I'm together with people whom I do not like then there is a reason and a goal. And it's that goal I think of and that is important to me only.
So of course I behave in a way that helps me achieve what I want or need to achieve.
Acting all rude and insulting isn't exactly helpful if you need to work together.
I wish I could be that stoic. If the person is merely rude or annoying I can see working through it. But when people act arrogant and dismissive of me I start boiling inside. I can't even talk without wanting to punch something. I can't act one way while I'm feeling another inside.
I can relate to both of these.
If there's a good reason why I NEED to be around people I'm not fond of (like at work), I will tolerate them, and behave however I need to in order to achieve the goal I want with them. Then I'll get the hell away from them as soon as I'm able. If they don't serve any purpose to me, however, but I'm still being 'forced' to be around them (most often this happens at family get-togethers....which I now avoid like the plague....and parties, which I also avoid at all costs), they will know about it. I won't necessarily SAY or DO anything to them, I'll usually just ignore them, which usually strikes others as pointed ignoring.
BUT....if people are rude, condescending, or dismissive of me, they'd better watch out. I can NOT tolerate that sort of behaviour, and rage often takes over. I'm getting that under control slowly but surely, but problems still arise with people who either find it entertaining to goad me, or who just don't know when to STFU and get lost.
28 Jan 2009, 5:02 pm
