What "social rule" do you dislike the most?

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I hate the weather chit-chat. I hate when people say, Is it cold enough for you?" as if they can make it colder if it's not cold enough for me. Or standing at the bus stop in sub-zero weather and a person walks up to me and says, It's cold out!" as if I would have never figured it without the information.

I hate when people ask me if im cold or not.

society expects you to be happy and cheerful(whether you are or not) you must look like it. "Smile"! !! !

when someone askes you "how are you"? I feel like saying "do you REALLY want to know, then going on and on and on about how unfair life is.

eye contact. I hate it when those horrible invasive people try to dig into your soul. I feel it as an invasion of personal space.

societies expectations of women and the unrealistic bodies they MUST have to be concidered "beautiful". In order to reach this naturally inattainable beauty, you must be pencil thin, flawless skin, beautul flowing silky shinny hair, 5'9", etc. Less than 1 percent of all of society fits these charistics naturally.

I'm not sure if it's a "social rule", but it seems like you always have to be so careful about what you say. I rarely want to talk to people that I don't know well, but one time I wanted to tell someone that she looked stunning...but it would have been inappropriate.

She's the resource teacher at my kids' school, and a few years ago she had bright blue hair. It looked really cool. One day she was dressed all in that cobalt blue, the same as her hair, and she was carrying a big bouquet of daffodils (which are bright yellow). So there was all this BLUE, and a big spray of yellow, and she was smiling happily. She looked very beautiful, and it's an image that stays in my mind and makes me happy. I wish that I could say that to her, but I can't, because there would be all kinds of awkwardness about that. It might sound like I had some kind of creepy crush on her, or make her feel uncomfortable somehow, because it would be a personal comment about her appearance. And if I clarified by saying that I have no personal interest in HER, but I simply liked the way she looked, all blue, with the yellow flowers, against a sunny background, then that would be inappropriate as well.


So it's yet another thing that I feel, which I can't actually say.

I hate that society forces almost everyone to conform to the "in crowd."

I only like the stories, jokes, and information sharing. All the greetings, sugarcoating, lies, filler, and crap can cram it. Of course for some, apparently ego driven reason, no one will give you the goods unless you play it their way. Which to my mind makes socializing a whole lot of sewage diving, sifting all the tons of crap to get at a few small rough diamonds. I prefer to avoid it.

Yes!

Doing the, "Hi, how are you?/"Fine," with someone you know, when you see them for the first time that day, is okay. But being expected to do it every single time, when you don't know who the hell the other person even is... this is actually something that's been starting to really get to me lately.

I was once told - quite angrily - when I asked why this was necessary, that you do it to 'reassure the other person you see that you're not hostile'. All I can say is that if someone's default state is to be worried about another person walking along minding their own business and perceive them as 'hostile' until they're told otherwise, they have a serious problem of their own - extreme paranoia.

Don't other people ever do things with a purpose or think about other things? Do they just constantly wander round hunting desperately for interaction with everyone they pass? Why do they care about what someone they don't know to speak to and hardly ever see thinks about them or is doing?



I've even spoken to some NTs who were annoyed by this one - i.e., being told, "Smile!!" by strangers.

Them bashing YOUR friends as losers....then it turns out THEY'RE just as bad, and so are THEIR friends.

That's something I've learned about the social world; you'll tell your friends what an underachiever one of your friends is and they'll say "why do you put up with that?" Then they do the exact same thing, and so do their friends.

the only difference?

THEY'RE better at covering it up, and YOU'RE above all of that!


I really think most socialization is utter deception. Call me evil for saying it, but that's what I think. It's about putting on a pretty mask for other people, whether things in one's life are truly pretty or not.

No....I don't get it either.


And one other thing...complaining.

It seems people just LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE to complain!

Right now, everyone seems to be whining about "the economy". Before, it was "gas prices". And the funniest part is, no one seems to know what causes problems for either; it just seems trendy to complain about it.

I totally don't get it.

Stifling your TRUE emotions!

The hypocritical BS like that people swear around you and stuff but if you swear in front of old ladies or kids for example or "mixed company" and you are younger that isnt allowed. Either everyone swears or no one swears same rules for everyone.

I actually refuse to call it "swearing", because it has a religious reference to it...same with 'cursing/cussing" I just refer to it as "profanitY", because while it does have a religious reference, ti's not one that makes it sound bad, as profanity ISN'T bad.

In fact, the entire idea of it being bad is based on very hypocritical religious ideas, and those ideas constantly conflict with each other. This was apparently shown on Penn & Teller's "Bull$#!+", and some woman said "just say 'holy cow'"...the problem with that is cow is sacred in some other company..but she had no problem using THAT in vain, because it wasn't sacred in HERS. It's total hypocracy.

But most people are very hypocritical.

Why do you think most parents won't properly teach their kids about drugs, drinking, smoking, etc? Because they did it too, and the kids won't care, since the parents turned out fine. Unless you DON'T DO IT yourself when you're younger, you have nothing to tell your kids. Unfortunately, that doesn't happen too much when most people are so pragmatic...

same here. this irritates me no end.

also the image of beauty that society expects women to conform to. i hate the way everyone is expected to be skinny. it sucks,

It's annoying when people want you to look happy all the time.

I used to have a friend who smiled ALL THE DAMN TIME, it drove me insane. She did it ALL the time, even when I was talking about something totally unfunny, like my parents' divorce or the fact that my brother is a violent pyschopath. But how unfair of me to expect Little Miss Perfect to understand misery.

When it comes to your example here, I don't understand either. If someone wants an opinion on how someone feels about dresses, then it will be the wrong dress everytime they go off to a shop somewhere. It feels weird.

Hurting someone's feelings by not telling which dress to pick in the shop doesn't feel like a valid argument either.

All the "hi, how are you?" crap that drives the beginning of every conversation. It feels like i'm prying out my fingernails... especially when it comes to talking on the telephone. If you're calling me to ask me a question about something in particular, don't ask me how I am and don't ask me what i'm doing and don't waste my time with talking about trivial banal s**t when you and me both just want to get to the f*****g point.

Judging the value of someone based on delivery over substance, i.e. how well they sell themselves. Nothing irritates me more than smooth talking people who are full of sh*t!