grizeldatee wrote:
Good morning. I realize that I am pointing out the obvious, but stress is something we do to ourselves. We have limited control over the things that occur around us, but can exercise some control over how we react to those occurrences. I came to realize this over 20 years ago and keep the phrase I used to sum up that epiphany, "We are the architects of our own unhappiness." Things that are not serving you well should be replaced by things that serve you well. Organize your life to please yourself, not others. In the immediate present, when feeling stressed, let it go. Neither worry nor anger will change a thing for the better, so indulging in these feelings is not logical. Recognize your negative feelings and accept them, but move on quickly to something that serves you well.
I think that an excess of worry is a habit. Any habit can be replaced by another with conscious effort. Worry is the art of finding that which is, or could become, uncomfortable. By determining to look for something else, like what is, or could become, joyful, a counterproductive habit is replaced with a reassuring habit. It is said that three weeks is all that is needed to make a habit. After a couple of decades, I still relapse into negative indulgences from time to time, but on the whole I am among the happiest people I know. Strange, perhaps, but mostly content.
"People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." -- Abraham Lincoln
Yeah, its true. I'm a positive person, but can get fed up. I've been through a bad spell, but am learning all the time how to deal with things, and i'm improving.
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I'm now midwifeaspie's piece of meat.