Ever been called out?

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I've never been called out, although a lot of people that don't know of my AS know that I am different.

I've always known there was something a bit different about me, and my Asperger's was initially identified by one of my friends/co-workers who has a son on the spectrum. I didn't really think about it then (I previously thought my life is simply what it's like to have ADD, since I was diagnosed with that as a kid), what made me start thinking about it was my last GF, when she pointed out some of my more autistic traits, and asked what's wrong with me. I didn't have an immediate answer, but that's when I started researching, and actually realized I was misdiagnosed as a kid. Then it really hurt when she didn't believe me after I had done about 3 days of near-constant researching. After getting my official diagnosis, I have shared it with a few trusted people that mostly just know me in a professional environment, and they told me they would never have guessed. (Discussions were in private, so those not-so-trusted people don't know) The few that I have shared with are very willing to help me avoid faux-pas, and secretly feed me some info on things I may be missing from others in interactions that they are also involved in.

I don't believe I've ever truly been called out. Everybody who knows about my AS got the info from either me or my mom (well, except the people who diagnosed me anyways), and nobody's ever really asked me if I had something wrong with me (though that's usually because I am rather free with letting people know my problems, due to them being so obvious).

I haven't been called out for having AS, but after I have told people I have AS, they usually make reference to my eccentric lifestyle/personality. So for them, it is no big surprise after they learn what AS is---because AS is truly me---and anyone who knows me, after they read the criteria for AS, would immediately recognize me.

My youngest son (in elementary school) has been called out by his current teacher (I teach in the same school district, so the teacher and I know each other) for having signs of AS. She told me in a conference earlier this school year that she had seen a couple "red flags" of AS in him. She also knows that I have AS. He is going for a diagnostic evaluation this summer at a clinic specializing in autistic children.

At the school system where I teach, most of us with autism proudly reveal it. I keep it no secret with those around me. Another staff member's son has AS and they keep it no secret with anyone either. And there is a middle school boy with "classic" autism and he keeps it no secret either. He was even on the school's own morning news broadcast awhile back and talked about his autism in an interview. I am sure there are at least a couple other students in the system who are autistic---but keep it more quiet.

Someone once said to me (I can't remember the scenario) "That's because you're autistic. I have no idea if that was a joke or not but I didn't admit it because I was going through diagnosis then and so it was definitive.

I never just come out and say "Hi, I'm autistic!" but if people ask I tell them. I would find it difficult to keep it from some people and not others.

Side-on. Do you mean you lean to one side while standing? If you do, on the 'unburdened' side, does your foot stand tip-toed instead of resting flat on the ground?

I got called out last night...figured I would add it to this thread rather than um...start a new thread about it...

The girlfriend of a guy who runs another local venue asked me if I was kind of autistic...and pointed out that she could sorta tell from my complete lack of eye contact... ..and she has worked with kids so I guess might have worked with some autistic kids....She was pretty eccentric herself....

I was kinda acting up a little bit...The folks at my venue and I had all gone out for the evening and I was feeling tired-yet-oddly talkative...so I was rambling on somewhat repetitively...and rocking a lot...as I tend to do when I am tired and overwhelmed...

I am glad...i would rather some people know..than for people to make assumptions that I am just some random anti-social dingbat...

I spent the whole day being social yesterday....I held a sock monkey workshop, and I told the chick (who is NT and my age..so I feel awkward calling her lady or woman or girl)...that I was slightly autistic...and explained to her a lot of the difficulties I have with mantaining focus and going off on tangets about this and that and so on....and she was really cool with it.
I think it would help me immensely with my social skills if I am able to be more open about it in general...

Once, but it was over the internet. Very skillful it was.

Yes, just from meeting someone once and having nothing to say. Then I heard that she had asked about me.

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Apparently most of the staff and some of the students at my university had a strong suspicion...
When I went to explain to the "Big Boss" in charge of my course that I was in the middle of the diagnostic process, he just said "Yup".
Turns out he had figured it out two years before I had!
Oh well...

That has happened to me before when I was at the park and the two girls came up to me and asked me for questions?
They thought I was unusual...

Next thing you know, they was asking me, I'm I autistic? and I was like -----------, so then they started teasing me about it thinking I was ret*d and disabled and this....

When I reached home, I just started crying and wishing I shouldn't of been like this in the first place.