Do you find extraverts exhausting?

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Once I had a sort-of friend who was really popular and extroverted, and this one time I was hanging around with her at lunchtime, and we were walking across the cafeteria, and I swear it took about half an hour just to walk across the cafeteria, because she kept stopping to make small talk with every single person she knew.

That was the day I realised that I'm actually glad I'm not popular, because this way I can concentrate on the few friends I do have, instead of spending all my energy on random people.

Hyperhearing, probably. It's all too intense and fast-moving for me, I'm much happier with quiet talk against a background of silence or something easy on the ear. If anybody gets loud and bubbly then it just feels in my face and then I just want them out of my face. For me, life is about sensitivity and the meeting of thoughtful, finely-tuned minds, slow and thoughtful. Most television and radio just sounds gross and ugly to me. I like loud, aggressive music sometimes, but only for an hour or two, and I have to know in advance that it's going to happen. I've got a very loud singing voice, and I enjoy using it, though I enjoy singing quietly and subtly as well.

Children are often way too loud and bubbly for me, but I always feel it's not their fault, so I'm more sympathetic towards them when they're acting like fireworks, I can cope with them for a little while, and can take it all with a good heart in a way that I can't with adults (who I always feel are abusing the privilege, like drunks do), but even with kids there comes a point where enough is enough and I have to pass them on to somebody else and go and get some peace.

All of this would probably be very different if I had a volume control on my ears.

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Yes, I find extroverts exhausting - for example, there was this girl I fancied on the one hand, but on the other she's extreme NT - extremely talkative, extroverted, bubbly, etc. I knew I could never even remotely hope to keep up with her or even bear to be around her for a relationship. So even though she was attractive, single, nice and at least didn't avoid me like the plague I never asked her out. I know NT's that considered her much too talkative and extroverted, so you can imagine what it was like for me.

I don't specifically hate extroverts but I do hate when people are all over me and keep expecting me to emote about something.

In answer to the question, I am an extrovert. So no I dont find extroverts exhausting. I find the more socially savvy ones confusing though.

You guys sound just like me but my problems are with other senses such as motor skills, or just general planning. I had a meltdown yesterday because the freeway had roadworks on it and I couldnt figure out how to get on it safely.

Also I had to go to a cinema which had parking of which I didnt know the location and that made me really upset. I need to have things mapped out before I go to them otherwise unwelcome surprises occur.

So, a bit of noise for me is ok, as long as it isnt a high pitched or metallic noise, or amplified.

I like to make a lot of noise myself, it is sort of vocal stimming I think.