Whats your most recent ASD moment?

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I am alone at home, using headphones to listen music.

I was impressed by your response. It was reasoned like a true logician. You even invoked a relevance principle in order to throw away an ambiguity in the question, an ambiguity which before then threatened the coherence of the topic. Have you thought of writing philosophy?

I can only shop at Lawblaws in my town, because the other 3 grocery stores are so cramped that I start having anxiety attacks -- and I ALWAYS have headphones, iPhone & sunglasses with me. I keep my list in "reminders" on my phone so I can literally check things off... otherwise I'll run out of the grocery store and not buy ANY groceries.

Which, unfortunately, doesn't put food in the fridge.

well i bought a "steak sandwich" this evening for my dinner, and a few minor problems occurred.

i positioned myself so i could clearly see the grill and monitor the cooking process of my steak sandwich, and the shop people all kept looking at me in a way i could not understand.

so then i pretended that i was not obsessed with the compilation of my steak sandwich by turning away and reading the ads on the wall (which i was not interested in).

the shop workers seemed to relax, and so i resumed my attention to the construction of my steak sandwich, and they again became skittish but i did not care, and i watched my meal being cooked without consideration to their interpretation of my motive for my behavior.

as i walked out of the shop with my food, i was aware that people's facial expressions seemed "concerned" or something similar.

i know they will all remember that interaction for a long time.
but interaction with me will happen regularly from now on so they must get used to it.

Yesterday. My wife provides childcare to a seven-year-old girl who has a condition called, in laymen's terms, "soft brain." Basically, her brain doesn't function well at all, so she doesn't eat on her own, talk, or even walk. Well, yesterday, the child's mom was late picking her up, so the child's older brother, who is 12, stopped by. They live about a half-mile down the road. The child is very big for her age, which is caused by her developmental issues, so she's very heavy. So, I'm standing there watching her brother struggle to pick up and carry her, her oxygen tank (also very heavy), and her bag. I watched for a good two to three minutes, I guess, before it dawned on me that I should just load them all in my van and drive them home. It was a very AS moment.

Today I left my grandmothers house and when I opened the door there was a lawn team across the street (and when I say team I mean it-a lawn mower guy, a weed wacker guy, a lawn vacuumer guy, and a blower guy). I was unprepared so I stuck my fingers in my ears like a 2 year old and ran to the car. I believe I am still recovering.

I was at the gym with my wife--not easy at the best of times. I'm on the elliptical thingie, my wife's on the one to my right--there's never been anyone on the one to my right (small town = mostly empty gym). Well, part way into our routine this kid decides to use the one on my left--begins to run sprint. Just when I thought he'd maxed out--another notch! I tell you--the noise--you might as well whack me with frying pans. Usually I slow down to cool when done--this time I bolted as though my bum was on fire...

A few days ago, I was online with a private women's social forum. These are genuinely good, honest people, there. One woman posted a dilemma, asking for what she should say to her cruel, nasty mother.
True to Aspie nature, I thought she wanted an answer to that problem. So I gave her a short, practical solution. Period.

Uhhhh......apparently every woman on that forum including the woman with the horrid mother thought my answer was "pat and simplistic" and unfeeling. It took me 2 days to realize (from what they were all saying---hint hint hint) that I had said something "wrong". I apologized to her/them, even though---deep down---- I don't think I did anything wrong. I was just being an Aspie-girl who can't make heads or tails out of NT female communication!! !

A good moment: I saw my next-door neighbor at the grocery store. She has an adult Aspie daughter. I got into conversation and revealed my new diagnosis, not knowing how my neighbor would react. I've known her for years, though I've never had a conversation with her daughter, who has much greater difficulty than I do. My neighbor was quite pleasant about it, and we spoke for some time. All in all, I think it went very well, and that my neighbor was very supportive. This was really nice. Also, as it turns out, according to my neighbor, we have three, maybe four houses in a row here with Aspie residents - two adults and at least one, possibly two kids. Very interesting.

I still have that problem, and I didn't even realize all thus communication was going on until I was 42 years old. It made me realize why women had usually always thought I was an ass and angrily avoided and/or said mean things about me. I have still not even come close to understanding it, but I've learned a few things. Like the primary reason NT women talk to each other is to bond - not to share or get information or help. Your job is to listen and just add some "oh that's terrible" and "then what did he say" kinds of thngs now and again. If you've allowed them to talk out what happened, and offered little to no practical advice, they will usually count you as "caring" and "so helpful".

I can only do this is in the barest, most pathetic ways even after 9 years. Mostly by just listening and keeping my mouth shut, no matter what.

My most recent moment was when someone was trying to remember the name of a store in their neighborhood, and they said "Their logo is brown and cream". And I was totally confused and asked what it meant to say "brown and cream" on their sign - and she looked at me like I'm a total idiot and said "the COLORS of their logo are brown and cream".

This afternoon I had asked someone to show me how to cook a special rice and beans dish that I love. However, that person had previously tried to demonstrate the recipe for me, and I had become distracted halfway through the process and left the room. Out of lingering annoyance, they told me that I shouldn't have stopped taking notes the first time, and they shouldn't need to demonstrate again. I took this as a no, and went to do something else, assuming that they didn't want me there taking notes. Much to my surprise, this person later became frustrated with me for not trying to take notes on the process again! I am still confused about the logic of the entire affair, although my guess is that I missed some sort of implied meaning in their earlier remarks...

There's this local radio station on 87.7 that's playing the same 4 songs over and over again. They've been doing it for a few weeks now, it's some kind of test mode. I'll listen to it for an hour at a time sometimes.

In the job center getting annoyed as they stopped my money even though I'd completed the things I needed to do. Trying to understand that they stopped the money as I didn't apply for local jobs that week only science jobs and that I had to write down those local jobs I applied to that week even if there was no new jobs to apply too. Told her I will not lie on the form and she told me she's not asking me to lie just to write down a suitable local job you applied too even if there's no new jobs to apply to and they do check to see if there real. Pointed out that I'm following the rules and my agreement and there still punishing me and threatening to punish me for events I have no control over and that by doing so there hurting my chances of finding work (No money = no electric = no computer, showers or hot food for 4 days). Nearing losing I just said it doesn't make sense and wandered off. Still doesn't make sense.

My favorite was when my new boss asked in front of half the site 'If your as smart as you think you are, how can we reduce the number and severity of errors to a minimum?" my answer "close the site and there would be 0 errors that's the minimum possible" She wasn't a happy bunny but I couldn't understand why, when I'd answered her question perfectly.

every moment of my life is autistic. my autism is permanent and pervades every second of my time..

i have no recent public examples of autistic displays that i can write about (i did not log them in my memory), but i can say that i was privately led to consider something in a very incorrect way.

i was playing a game called "spell force" (it is an excellent game), and the TV was on in the background (as it always is), and there was some documentary on, and i happened to hear (read) fragments of it, and i started to pay attention to it when i heard "i like to shoot seals in the morning because they look gorgeous shortly after they wake up."

then i saw "i also like to shoot seals when they are giving birth", and i thought that was a horrible thing to like until i found out (after actually looking at the TV) he meant "take pictures of" when he said "shoot".

that is all

Oh my, I thought these people were sick in the head or something. The many meanings of shoot...