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I already said he could just put them under his bed or mattress.



Absolutely. Plus you have everything in writing that way.

At this point, it's probably better to get a scan of each picture. The scan will depict the actual picture. The only difference is the paper the picture is printed on. I can understand the appeal of an "actual" picture---but, until you can get them mailed to you, scanning is the way to go.

Later, when you get the rest of the stuff, you can have the actual pictures sent as well.

Are there things like furniture among his things? Ask the lawyer to describe the items your brother has.

You think maybe a rehab clinic place stores valuables for patients? I know even prisons store valuables for inmates and give them back after discharge. At least that's the way it works in movies.

Ask the lawyer anyways.



Ask the lawyer anyways if they can be mailed to you.



Ask the lawyer anyways.



I don't think what you're doing there is going to work.

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He's been in homeless shelters where they have "stored" his stuff.

Some of that "stuff" has disappeared.

As I think of it, it is probable that there is a drawer by his bed where he can keep the stuff which can fit into a drawer.

But he'll still have to get the ziplock bags for when he is back in the shelter.

This entire post is BS, but I bolded the part that's the biggest BS.

I never said I didn't want you to have memories of your family. In fact, I've pointed out that you DO have memories of your family & always will even if you don't have your brothers stuff. Memories cannot be taken from your brain. Memories don't require pieces of paper be mailed to you - you already have them, they're yours and yours alone to keep & cherish for as long as your brain allows.

Great, so you want the pieces of paper.. now that we're back at square one:

Q: Do you have an address for them to be sent to you & a place to store them?
A: No to both.

Ok.

Q: Where would you like them sent instead; An estate auction house or landfill?
A: Your choice.

Boom! Problem solved. Move on with your life. * **

*Unless you have an address to send them to & can afford to pay for storage there, then if that's what you really want, do that.

**As has been said repeatedly, you could ask for scans/photos and see if they would do it. However, if they're currently stored in the basement of some storage facility then no one from the lawyers office is likely to go and retrieve them and make scans and send them w/o charging a per page document fee - whatever their office charges. They might have a low fee of $10/page for photocopies, or a high fee of $100 per page for any document produced, or an hourly rate of $400 (or whatever) / hour regardless of the type of work performed. Or perhaps some other fee structure. Just be aware that they are a business, not a charity, and shouldn't be expected to work for you, or anyone, for free. If you want them to do the work of sifting through your brothers stuff and scanning photos then you have to be prepared to pay out of pocket for their services, or out of the estate if there's money left in trust with them etc. Otherwise the only way you're getting scans is if you go there and do it yourself and then call the junk removal company to come and haul the rest of the stuff away for disposal.

Maybe you think I'm being an a**hole, but this is the reality of your situation. Pay the $ for the services you want, or don't and don't get them. Those are your options.

Not beyond a small wardrobe or night stand in his room. They're not in the business of storing things. They don't have a basement full of storage lockers like an apartment building might. They're in the business of rehabilitating people and there won't be any more storage available to clients than would be in a standard shared hospital room.

They're not a prison storing people for long time periods & thus have small lockers for personal items - incomparable. They're a rehab place for people to heal and GTFO asap.

Why would anyone swipe old family photos?

Sometimes I think the same.. wtf? Why would someone break into my car and steal an ancient GPS system worth $zero that was given to me for free?

Because, EzraS, they're not well. They don't think like you and I. They might see value where no one else does & cherish some material thing that EVERYONE else would throw out. Either they have serious mental issues or drug/alcohol issues and all they see is: In a few seconds worth of stealy thievery work I might be able to turn that thing into a crack rock. That's all they see.

I'm not talking about a bunch of stuff. I'm talking about a dammed envelope.

Holy s**t you guys like to argue. It's worse than being in PPR.

Last edited by EzraS on 12 Dec 2017, 2:09 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Holy hell I was talking about staff.

You're as bad as ASS-P with all your rebuttals.

I don't have any more hair left to pull out between him, you and krafti

He probably has storage space for his stuff by his bed—a chest of drawers or something like that.

..except ASS-P has so far refused to find out how much stuff there is. Further, you didn't say an envelope, so of course I assumed "any amount of stuff," that the stuff happens to be.

I very highly doubt it was staff who stole his things before. It's other clients of the shelter that are likely thieves.

ASS-P:

What is your budget for scans/electronic copies? Surely a lawyers office is going to have a fee for these services.

What is your budget for storage costs?

Without this information it's pointless for you to ask one of the social workers next to you to make a phone call to the lawyers office in an attempt to resolve your issue of your brother's stuff.

Ok, I understand what you're saying my friend. When you put it into terms as you put them I guess it makes sense. Here is my question. Why couldn't others have explained it as excellent as you did?