WP members GF ill with cancer

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so pretty much about halfway there

i hope things are going okay...
have to wait til tomorrow to call 'cause it's past midnight there.
& it's making me anxious :///

You know you could take the buss for half the price of a plane ticket. It would leave you more money for a cheap hotel room and a little cash for spending. I survived several city to city buss rides and I have extreme social anxiety.

Round-trip plane fares from Seattle to Indianapolis:

3-10 August with Travel One $405

10-17 August with Cheap Aircom $406

9-29 August with Expedia $313

4-9 September with Hotwire $258

7-14 September with Cheap Aircom $260

Depending on whether seanmw's girlfriend actually wants him there, and whether he ever manages to speak to her mother again, and pref in person, ( to confirm that he will be staying in her house for a few days ), he could already afford to go in a couple of weeks time, by the look of those prices.

Edit. PS. Of course if the surgery didn't work, and the prognosis was poor, ( eg. only a few weeks or months to live, ... which is the only way to even begin to explain the lightning speed at which she supposedly got the necessary referrals, had an MRI, underwent a biopsy, and had yesterday's surgery scheduled ... all in under three weeks! :lol ... ), then sooner would obviously be better ... ( though so far we have no proof that she has had any surgery at all, or even has cancer ), but I'm getting the impression, ( despite the ostensible gravity of the situation ), that there is actually no rush, probably because the girlfriend keeps falling asleep on seanmw when he tries to get the facts straight, so a round-trip in early September, for $260, would probably be ok.
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Last edited by ouinon on 30 Jul 2010, 2:05 am, edited 4 times in total.

I would give if i could but i am losing my house so i cant afford to. but if i could i would. I so wish to help!

my mom is being treated for breast cancer so i understand. and i cannot see my long distance bf due to lack of funds. so i understand that too.

oh i will pray for them both!! ! oh i am so sorry they are going through all this!

i am so sorry for them both what a terrible thing to happen!

Please get her to eat lots of fruit! !! !! as this has been said to help get rid of the cancer along with the chemo and radiation.

I am so very sorry you and you gf are going through this. if i had money i would chip in. please get her to eat alot of fruit as this has been said to improve the treatment process.

blessings to you both!!

I hope she gets well soon.

My friend/god mothers cancer was the size of a grape fruit and she was cured. My mothers was borderline stage 3 and they think she will be ok. it is almost all gone. so there is hope . my moms cancer was not found for 2 years. they had suspicions about a mass in her breast for 2 years before they actually diagnosed her with the cancer. so there is still hope for your GF.

pray it does work. god saved my mom. she almost died and spent a month in the hospital. spent alot of time in the ICU. had 4 surgery's, 1 with no anesthesia and she still lived. so pray and god will save her.

when my mom was dying i prayed and god saved her life. so pray for her.

That's just the thing though, i don't know how long i have left should things turn bad...

i think also, it's relatively a bit cheaper depending on the day of the week that departure & arrival are on also though.

Actually it is this, ( the way that the girlfriend doesn't seem to be absolutely desperate for seanmw, supposedly the love of her life, marriage material, etc, to get over there, be by her side in all this, "before the end", and how little she or her mom seem to have done/be doing to enable him to do so, as if it really is a matter of indifference to them, despite their relationship being apparently so important ), that currently feels most weird and unconvincing to me, more so even than the way she has crammed first doctor's visit, referrals, an MRI, a biopsy, and more surgery into a mere three weeks.
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Last edited by ouinon on 30 Jul 2010, 2:17 am, edited 1 time in total.

I've actually read articles before, i think, that mentioned how some fruits have anti-cancer properties. Like the skin of purple grapes contains some kind of natural chemical for example, though i forget what it's called .

in any case i'd actually forgotten about that kind of thing til now, so thanks for reminding me
i'll be sure to tell them.

& though you can't contribute, even just blessings, well-wishes, prayers, and kind thoughts are deeply appreciated, thank you, i will pass them along to her.

I hope she gets well soon. you take care of yourself too. cause i know this must be pretty hard on you. get plenty of sleep, and take care of your self. so when you go to see her you can be as much help as possible.

good luck hope you see her soon!

That's encouraging to hear. I hope Adrienne does as well.
i pray for her at length every night .
i just hope they're heard...
They say god has a divine plan, if it is in his plan for her to die, i wonder if the universe would suffer should she live. I don't know how flexible god's plans are, but i'm praying that if they were not meant to include her, that he could learn to accommodate so that they might. On the other hand, if they gave allowance for her already, then things should prove alright. But i am no master of the universe, just a poor man, and so i must wait like all others to find out the inevitable .

Actually just 18 days, from first visit to doctor until yesterday's surgery, not even three weeks.

Is that possible, even in the USA?
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well, things often aren't so simple. For all i know, she is desperate, but the fact is that when you're 2000 miles away, and the only person you really know in the area has been stricken with cancer, the distance itself already makes such communication hard, but when they're drugged up on new antidepressants and weak from anemia because she's bleeding into her digestive tract, the line of connection becomes even more erratic because she sleeps most of the time, and when i have made contact these past few days, she hasn't exactly sounded as lucid, like talking to someone on a weak phone connection, i've had to repeat things a couple times. The few times she's been able to answer the phone lately have been mostly by chance & at times when she was awake to eat or use the restroom. I've had to use a hit-n-miss method of calling, putting in as many as 40-60 calls per day at different times until one caught her both awake and within range of her phone. It's not that nobody's not desperate to do anything, it's mostly that this is an imperfect world and the levels of communication since these things have happened has been sh***y because the situation is sh***y. Prolly have an even worse time contacting her directly now 'cause she's out of surgery earlier today and prolly taking some kind of pain medicine and laying around somewhere dozing again. I've had a grandma with pancreatic cancer before and most of the time i saw her in the hospital she was either emotionally unstable because of the situation or drugged up, with some times of calmness.
In a perfect world i could just call a number, her mom would pick up right away, and i could explain everything perfectly, and i'd be having alot less issues right now.
But Adrienne passed off her phone to her best friend Megan so i'm going to have to work through her first before i can get through to her mom. Most likely have to wait til Megan goes to visit herself to get any kind of solid message through.

Times like this that i hate living 2000 miles away
it makes doing some of the simplest of things so frustratingly tedious

there could possibly have been prior doctor visits presenting some symptoms, but where they hadn't yet concluded cancer. I've only reported what i've heard. & the majority of what i'd heard happened after the 11th.
Perhaps the MRI & biopsy were on the 11th or soon after, i'm not entirely certain what date it was on, only that it happened. I could possibly ascertain what day it happened if you wish further clarification, but i'd first have to get in touch with them again and get Adrienne's mom on the line because i'm not sure Adrienne would be let out so soon after surgery. & i'm also not sure if i recall whether cell phones are allowed in hospitals .
or is the no cell phone rule an urban myth? i'm not entirely sure actually. I just vaguely recall hearing something to that affect at some point in time, though i forget where

Why would it not be possible? If time is of the essence they try to get surgery going quickly. Patients go into the ER all the time complaining about chest pain and have tests done that day, and surgery scheduled the next day, spend a week or so in ICU, and then are released.

Now granted cancer can be harder to pin down than a heart problem, but 18 days is more than enough time to run tests and get surgery scheduled.