Teach51
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03 Oct 2020, 1:45 pm
I got PMed by a troll today, that has never happened to me before 
I don't believe any of the regular posters are trolls. I don't think bearing a grudge is trolling. I'm talking about minimizing triggering content and identifying and clarifying why it may be unintentionally harmful to certain vulnerable members.
03 Oct 2020, 1:48 pm
03 Oct 2020, 2:11 pm
I don't believe any of the regular posters are trolls. I don't think bearing a grudge is trolling. I'm talking about minimizing triggering content and identifying and clarifying why it may be unintentionally harmful to certain vulnerable members.
Was it one of those spammy PMs like "Hey sweetie, I just saw your profile and looking for friends, I am from New York City and my email is [email protected], lots of luv and kisses."
I just report them to a mod. I don't get those very often but it's common here.
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03 Oct 2020, 2:14 pm
Not exactly but I could see it was not legit. I don't answer PM's unless I really know the person well or have seen them post regularly so no risk there.
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03 Oct 2020, 2:15 pm
I don't believe any of the regular posters are trolls. I don't think bearing a grudge is trolling. I'm talking about minimizing triggering content and identifying and clarifying why it may be unintentionally harmful to certain vulnerable members.
Was it one of those spammy PMs like "Hey sweetie, I just saw your profile and looking for friends, I am from New York City and my email is [email protected], lots of luv and kisses."
I just report them to a mod. I don't get those very often but it's common here.
Even spammers aren't interested after they read my profile.
Teach51
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03 Oct 2020, 2:18 pm
I don't believe any of the regular posters are trolls. I don't think bearing a grudge is trolling. I'm talking about minimizing triggering content and identifying and clarifying why it may be unintentionally harmful to certain vulnerable members.
Was it one of those spammy PMs like "Hey sweetie, I just saw your profile and looking for friends, I am from New York City and my email is [email protected], lots of luv and kisses."
I just report them to a mod. I don't get those very often but it's common here.
Even spammers aren't interested after they read my profile.
Mine's as boring as hell too
Nothing in it at all actually. I think your music would interest a lot of people, is it not in your profile?
03 Oct 2020, 2:20 pm
03 Oct 2020, 2:22 pm
funeralxempire
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03 Oct 2020, 2:22 pm
I don't believe any of the regular posters are trolls. I don't think bearing a grudge is trolling. I'm talking about minimizing triggering content and identifying and clarifying why it may be unintentionally harmful to certain vulnerable members.
Was it one of those spammy PMs like "Hey sweetie, I just saw your profile and looking for friends, I am from New York City and my email is [email protected], lots of luv and kisses."
I just report them to a mod. I don't get those very often but it's common here.
Even spammers aren't interested after they read my profile.
Mine's as boring as hell too
Nothing in it at all actually. I think your music would interest a lot of people, is it not in your profile?I'm mostly kidding, just since I've never gotten that sort of spam before.
That and the constant dull ache of always feeling alone and alienated.
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03 Oct 2020, 2:23 pm
I have never tried it to see what happens and I know there are people out there who will mess with scammers to see what happens.
Two options:
1) It proceeds to soliciting money
and/or
2) your adress will be sold to a fartillion of spam companies.
2) Use a burner account.
1) Ask them for money first.
03 Oct 2020, 2:28 pm
Nothing in it at all actually. I think your music would interest a lot of people, is it not in your profile?That and the constant dull ache of always feeling alone and alienated.
If it makes you feel any better, I never got such PMs, too.
I rarely got any PMs before I became a moderator.
Teach51
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03 Oct 2020, 2:29 pm
I have never tried it to see what happens and I know there are people out there who will mess with scammers to see what happens.
Two options:
1) It proceeds to soliciting money
and/or
2) your adress will be sold to a fartillion of spam companies.
2) Use a burner account.
1) Ask them for money first.
Yes loneliness is a bummer. I feel it too sometimes. Most people do. That's why it should be as safe as possible here I feel, if someone feels invalidated or attacked they will leave. That would be such a shame.
03 Oct 2020, 2:36 pm
I wonder if not getting these PMs is a good thing because it indicates they see no vulnerability in you so they steer clear of you and only go for the ones who they think are vulnerable.
I have an online friend who is also autistic, diagnosed in 2004, and he gets pissed whenever he gets scam mail. He seems to think there is a conspiracy behind it and I tell him it's nothing personal and this is totally random. They are just out looking for suckers so they send it to any mailing address they find. They have no way of knowing who he is and how would they know his history, it's just random and coincidental. Just throw it away and move on. But if he came here and got that sort of PM, he would be really angry. He sees it as them insulting his intelligence and how dare they think he would be that stupid to fall for it. 
I think it's more to do with people assuming he is vulnerable so they under estimate him. To him this is insulting to his character.
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03 Oct 2020, 2:37 pm
I know I seem very vanilla but I am lethal for anyone who hurts me or my friends and family, in a legal and non-violent manner of course. People don't expect it at all Pity the troll who messes with me 
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03 Oct 2020, 2:39 pm
I have an online friend who is also autistic, diagnosed in 2004, and he gets pissed whenever he gets scam mail. He seems to think there is a conspiracy behind it and I tell him it's nothing personal and this is totally random. They are just out looking for suckers so they send it to any mailing address they find. They have no way of knowing who he is and how would they know his history, it's just random and coincidental. Just throw it away and move on. But if he came here and got that sort of PM, he would be really angry. He sees it as them insulting his intelligence and how dare they think he would be that stupid to fall for it.
I think it's more to do with people assuming he is vulnerable so they under estimate him. To him this is insulting to his character.
I think you are right, trolls look for naivety and vulnerability
03 Oct 2020, 4:07 pm
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