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I will probably regret getting involved in this topic (yet again), but I've been following ASS-P's posts for years now, and have struggled with wanting to be supportive, but ultimately feeling there's nothing I can do to help.

ASS-P, I'm glad you're in a safe place for the moment, and getting the medical care that you need. I would agree with others here who have urged you to stay put as long as this place is available to you, and not rush into anything else right now.

I'm sorry to hear about your brother's passing, and hope that you can find a way to at least get a few photos scanned or mailed to you. It sounds like the next step is to hear back from the lawyer, and hopefully he can clarify what he's willing and able to do about it, and how to proceed from here.

To others in this thread... In general, I agree with what many of you are saying, in that ASS-P has a history of asking for unrealistic help from WP forum members, and refusing to follow through with even the simplest of suggestions. I understand that can be frustrating, but feel that even so, we need to try our best to be patient and compassionate, to someone who is dealing with far more difficult circumstances than most of us have ever known.

It may be a pipe dream, but I also wish that as forum users we could be more respectful to each other, in general, and not just in this thread. In particular I feel Omniel has been unfairly condemned, simply for being honest about the difficulty of dealing with an autistic family member. This thread itself is proof that people with autism are capable of making unreasonable demands on others, and it's understandable that Omniel would come here seeking perspective, in how to deal with her own situation.

I'm not saying that I have any answers for ASS-P's situation, that haven't already been suggested. Or that I'm any kind of saint, either in my ability to provide in-person help, or my own blundering social missteps on this forum. I'm only saying that we all need to step back and resolve to at least try to be more respectful to each other, in this world where it's so difficult for us to find any place where we feel welcome or accepted at all.

(I also have to say, in case it isn't common sense, that California is experiencing unprecedented wildfires at the moment, and I would not recommend burning anything, for safety issues.)

Take care, ASS-P, and keep us updated on how you're doing. You're a survivor, that's for certain, and I personally have learned a lot from following your story over the years. Hope things continue to improve for you in the future.

I'm sympathetic to ASS-P's cause because we have a lot in common (age, homelessness, diagnoses, location, etc). I wish I could help him out in person because it seems like he needs hands-on help. Deep inside, though, I think things will work out okay in the long run.

I don't think he should burn his brother's pictures at all. No way.

As for the other stuff, I'd have to know what the stuff is before I give an answer. If it's old comic books or old phonograph records, I know ASS-P would like those.

If it's furniture, and he's near to being able to rent a senior apartment or something of that ilk, this might be useful. Who knows?

It would be hard to prevent those being stolen. True.

My fondest wish is for ASS-P to get a shave and haircut, and a button-down shirt and chinos, as a celebration for finding his senior apartment.

You're right. That wouldn't be good for him.

His favorite place, from what I've gathered, is Burger King.