Self-diagnosis

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Crumpets and JAM?!

^Yep! I love crumpets with honey, too, because it soaks in and gets all thick and sticky and delicious!

Vanilla custard and flan:

Don't do flan! It's cruel to wave temptation in front of someone!

I think crumpets are in the category of "things one would toast by the fire place"



together with, toasted tea cakes.

Try cooking a flan on a toasting fork.

Crumpets as the 'bread' of a tuna mayo sandwich. Now THAT'S a good meal.

I love bubble and squeak, we used to have it on Mondays after a roast on a Sunday. Bubble and squeak is the leftover vegetables and potato from a roast dinner mashed together and fried.

Hi all,

I am curious about your process of self-diagnosis, the process of self-acceptance that happens for adults before they seek a formal diagnosis. I am curious because I am a female NT (although I don't think I'm NT at all, just not AS). I have been in a long term, committed relationship with my bf and he is absolutely wonderful. I feel head over heels and think he is talented, smart, kind, funny, hot, inspiring, and truly good hearted. Needless to say, I love him. But I think he may be undiagnosed AS and I don't how to introduce the topic in a helpful, positive, understanding way.

There has been a lot of issues for me and they are only getting worse. I feel isolated from him a lot and our sex life has slowed almost to a halt. My love language is primarily touch so not having regular hugs and kisses and cuddles is really hard on me. It makes me feel like I repulse him and that he doesn't love me. But everything else in the relationship is good - he makes other gestures and choices that tell me that he loves me more than ever.

My therapist recently suggested that my bf may be AS. She hasn't met him so it's not a diagnosis but after she said that I did a lot of research and it does seem to fit, down to the fact that he is very sensitive to sound, touch and smell - particularly light touch.

All the research I have done says that it is ABSOLUTELY important that both partners be aware of AS and to seek a diagnosis. What I have read says that it can only work if both partners are knowledgeable about the unique challenges of AS-NT relationships. So, I know I should bring this up with him (especially before things progress and we end up getting married or something), but I don't know how. I am afraid he might be offended (although he shouldn't, he is wonderful and being AS does not change that at all).

Does anyone have any advice? Has anyone been told to seek a diagnosis by a loved one? How did it feel? Was there anything you wish they had said or hadn't have said? Do you think it would be helpful to reach out to my bf's family?

I'd really appreciate your perspectives.

^So much for our cultural dessert thread.

How would one cook flan with a toasting fork???? It's funny how the Flans in Final Fantasy look more like jello that anything.

I think it's one of those Zen riddles

LOL, I was trying to make a cross cultural double entendre with ancient slang from old Britcoms.

Your cooking with a fork is good material.

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so is this the desert thread?

^No, there are no deserts or oasis [oasises?] here. There's plenty of dessert and good food, though.

Time is an illusion--lunchtime doubly so. [The Hitchhiker's Guide To The Galaxy]
I don't know half of you half as well as I should like, and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve. [The Lord of The Rings: The Fellowship of The Ring]

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Dissapointing. I shall carry on through the valley of death for the thread I seek then.



/s/

I came to recognise my autistic traits from seeing similarities with my son who was diagnosed as autistic. So I don't now how it feels or what would be the best way to raise it. I would say though that I would have been very upset if my wife discussed it with my family without my consent. Disclosing from me wasn't easy so I would steer clear of discussing it with your bf's family. That said I don't now he family.

I wish you the best and hope things work out for you and your bf.

Hello, I think you should try to solve the problem you have now. Talk to him about how you feel, that you are missing the physical aspect of the relationship. If the conversation drifts towards AS then let it, but don't force it. Once you have fixed this problem together, you should find it easier to talk about the next issue.

I recommend you start your own thread.