Do you have more social anxiety around girls or guys?

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I get along with people who allow me to be blunt.

I get along with people who are secure with themselves.

I get along with people who don't mind me being quiet.

I get along with people who have hobbies and believe in personal space.

I get along with people who don't give me infractions for telling the truth.

I get along with people who value respect and have care.

I get along with people who can honestly tell me if I'm getting on their nerves or who can tell me flat out they don't like me and get it out of their system over people who drop hints and who pick at you subtly.

I get along with people who don't mind the detailed story to the question "How are you doing?"

I have never felt comfortable around women...I am a woman. I have always had more male friends. As I have gotten older, and now have no job, my life has become harder because most of my "acquaintances" are women vs. men...which makes my life feel empty and boring...I can't deal with the bs that women like to talk about...and of course, if I talk to the men or their husbands, I always feel weird that they think I am hitting on them, when I'm not...I just really have nothing in common with women.

When I was younger, guys were easier to talk to. But as you get older, people change, and so both genders are just as bad for me.

Surprised I missed this thread until now

Interesting question...

I have FAR less anxiety (and often none) around women than guys.

- I just feel more comfortable around women (particularly if they are racially different to me)

I could expand on this (and it would still be directly relevant to the thread question) but that probably belongs in the Adult forum.

Both in my case. That doesn't mean the anxiety is the same qualitatively speaking. Comparing the anxiety I feel around men and that which I feel around women would be an apples/oranges comparison. It's all pretty complicated and I honestly don't feel like explaining it since it's really not important to me at all. I resigned myself to the fact that i'd always be a pariah decades ago. I'm quite at peace with that aspect of my life as socializing, friends, sex, romance, etc...never meant that much to me in the first place. There are other aspects of my life (and infinitely more important ones IMO) that i'm not at all at peace with however.

I don't have social anxiety as much as I have sensory processing problems, but for the most part I just communicate poorly and feel indifferent with everyone equally.

Neither makes me more anxious these days, but it used to be girls before I was out in the real world, being expected to interact with everyone.

I still feel the need to watch how I might phrase something around a young woman, though, since certain unintentional things might be perceived as coming onto her, even if I didn't mean it that way. I wouldn't say it causes any anxiety, though.

I feel more anxious around other women. I'm intimidated by them because I worry that they'll look down on me as inferior for not being as pretty or socially skilled. It certainly doesn't help that I was bullied by my sisters and girls at school.

Most of my friends over the years have been male. I feel like I can let my guard down around men because they seem more tolerant and accepting of social mistakes, and they don't hold grudges very often. Virtually all my friends in junior high were male - they were all anime geeks like I was. Some of them were "outcasts" in other ways, like being gay or goth. Nowadays my younger brother's friends enjoy hanging out with me and the ones who don't have sisters tend to view me as one. I think it's sweet.

I don't have much social anxiety, but out of the two I have more around guys. I don't think this is the norm (it seems girls would be more like this), but guys I've known tend to be more of the type that talk about you behind your back and stuff. They're also the only ones that voice their opinions of me being rude, stuck up, etc. (Personally I just think I'm bad at stroking the male ego.) Recently I've gained a lot of weight and they treat me especially poorly now.

I have more social anxiety around girls, I much prefer to hang out with boys because I'm a lot more relaxed aroud them.

I don't understand feminine women, but I think my anxiety is the same across the board. If anything, it's worse with men in groups, because I'm afraid they might hurt me.

I have more anxiety around boys.

I ´m allways afraid of doing something wrong etc.

Around girls I usually don´t care I have made plenty of mistakes before and they seem to act nicer than boys whenever I make a mistake.

Agreed, I only get anxious in what I perceive as threatening situations. Doesn't matter what gender, but often male since those are the hell raisers.

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Girls. The more attractive they are, the harder it is.

Both, really.