10 things you want NTs to know

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Janissy
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24 Nov 2009, 5:43 pm

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I am very intolerant of people I perceive as less intelligent than me, I simply can't work with or talk to these people.
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IQ Elitism. Ugly.

Thank you for pointing out that I feel that I'm worth more than people who are less intelligent than me. Oh wait. I meant, and you would know this if you didn't just read that bit but the entire post, that I can't stand it when someone doesn't grasp a concept immediately. I can't work with these people because I like to keep my thouhts running smoothly. I can't do that when I have to explain something to someone. Like now.

I did read your whole post. My comment of "IQ Elistism. Ugly" takes your whole post into account. Perhaps you think it is less elitist or less ugly if it is your coworkers, customers or clients you are talking about. It isn't. Perhaps you think it is less elitist or less ugly if your excuse is because you are impatient and you like to keep your thoughts running smoothly. It isn't.

Your assumption that I didn't read the whole post just because I didn't quote it and therefore you must explain it to me is also elitist and ugly.

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24 Nov 2009, 6:17 pm

I'm with Janissy. It doesn't just sound ugly to me; it sounds self-defeating, a way to miss out on too much of the world. At my IQ, that cuts out 99.999% of the population.

Ever try being on the other end? I've run into people with that attitude before -- of claiming those less intellectually gifted are automatically unendurable -- who approve of and want to spend time with me because I've got the zomgGiantBrainz. But I generally wind up preferring people whose outlook is less limited, because they tend to be more intellectually stimulating, not less.

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24 Nov 2009, 6:23 pm

I wish people that are NTs would stop assuming that we get implied directions. Because something that is implied, doesn't mean it is clear to me.

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24 Nov 2009, 6:44 pm

Fiz wrote:

gina-ghettoprincess wrote:

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ThatRedHairedGrrl wrote:

Oh, one more thing: Realize that as an Aspie woman, I have less interest than many NT women in stereotypically 'feminine' topics of conversation, and that I don't like being coerced into 'girlie' activities. (This may not be true for all AS women, but I'd bet it is for a fair few of us, me included.)

OMG... it's sooooo true for me.
My idea of a good time is NOT shopping.

Agreed.

Absolutely, I agree also. I actually went out to do my Christmas shopping today, purely because I know going in December would have been utterly suicidal! It was busy enough today!! Whenever I go shopping, I just like to get what I have gone for and get out of there as soon as humanly possible.

Anyway, things I want NT's to know:

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Just because I don't appear to show any emotions, it doesn't mean I don't have any. I can get emotionally hurt or excited just like a normal person, I just don't necessarily know how to show them.
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Just because I don't want to partake in anything you consider fun, that doesn't mean I am boring or a miserable sod, it just means that what I take pleasure in differs from what you take pleasure in. I don't slight you for it, so please do me the same courtesy.
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Just because I may appear slightly odd to you, it doesn't mean I am harmful in any way or someone to be ignored. Please do not willfully exclude me from things as this is really hurtful. Remember, I feel things too and can be really hurt by people's ignorant actions.
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Sometimes, any conversation I may form may encompass my special interests. If you think I have said too much or you no longer want to hear it, please try to steer the conversation to something else politely, I will get the message. Ignoring me, talking over me like I'm not there or making fun of me isn't very nice, please don't do that.
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Sometimes I like to have time to myself. Please respect this as I find it very upsetting to be around anyone when I don't want to be.

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24 Nov 2009, 6:53 pm

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I will not go to speech thearapy and lose my Cockney accent.

I quite like being mistaken for the opposite sex.

Who is trying to make you get rid of your accent? That is F-ing pathetic. Nobody would ask me to get rid of my Upper-Midwestern American accent! And I think the Cockney accent sounds cool!

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