I am currently reading this book for insight into one of my parents. I figure in the book the NT woman has been candid, printing things an NT would not typically say in order to not hurt ones feeling. I have done studies on my own intensively over the last 6 months in order to regain my sanity. The emotionless response from this parent over the course of the last 50+ years led me on a search for the truth and reason. I venture to say there are so many others out there like me, wondering why, why, why there is no reasoning or logic when speaking with their loved one or friend. After so many Ahhhhhhhhhh moments, too numerous to count i am attempting to deal with this parent on a different level. The characteristics line up overwhelmingly. I attempted to explain this topic, to this parent, at my own peril, and i was given about 25 minutes of time. This parent no more KNOWS me after 50+ years than a casual acquaintance would. In all these years there has never been a time to sit down and just talk and interact with out the hyper-focused and unasked for advice with no reciprocity. The harsh tones, the embarrassment's endured, the lack of touch and feeling has been extremely difficult and now I AM the full time caregiver of this person! After all these years this person does not trust anyone, not really, only themselves. I have also read that if there is a diagnosis, that acceptance, if any, could take years to occur. I just want to be trusted i guess. Many more things too many to name. So i wonder, if a person who believes or has been diagnosed with this, wants to know the effect on their family members and wants to NOT come across this way, then maybe taking a read through the book might be enlightening, and perhaps finding a trusted individual who will give advice to help future generations.
So you can tell i speak from pain endured, pain enduring and pain continuing........how would you, potentially Aspie's that are younger than i respond? Also methods for taking care of this person would be appreciated. I have now developed my own flash cards of emotions to help, but this is just in the beginning phase.
Lastly i have come to realize that i know many more people on the spectrum and i have been their friend or loved one and maintained a relationship with these others for years, so it is not that i am unable to love an Aspie individual. thanks for listening ..........................
17 Sep 2010, 1:22 pm
