Why do we have immature interest?

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I think it's because with autism, sometimes mental age doesn't keep up with chronological age. I read books from the "juvenile fiction" section of the library and watch veggietales. I like cats instead of boys. Mentally, I'm somewhere between 8 and 12, so that makes sense.

Just going through all the posts in this thread, honestly, as long as nobody is hurting anybody, I don't see why we can't all just enjoy the things that make us happy. It shouldn't matter how "mature" or "immature" they are. Live and let live!

Amen!

OTT but I love this site, I originally came here to find out more about my son, but love reading about the different ways people feel and think and experience things.
Viva la difference, it would be so so boring if everyone was the same.

it's funny...because there were many cases in my life where it seemed someone I was talking to got really insecure, and starting "propping themselves up" for whatever reason.

One instance that comes to mind is my former close friend who's now husband to my ex-girlfriend. And when I say close friend...yeah, like about 20 years ago.

Well, back about 10 years ago, he and my ex stopped in the store I was at, and I didn't recognize her til she started speaking. We got into a conversation, and I asked her some questions here and there and he took it as "flirting"; to be fair, I kept telling everyone "how can I flirt when I don't even know what it is?"...and I literally meant that.

Did I say something incredibly stupid in asking my ex if she and I would ever get back together again? No doubt about it...however several hours later, I emailed her and apologized for that statement & realizing I was wrong, asking if maybe she and her husband wanted to hang out or something sometime..and if she had any friends I could meet.

This erupted, as you might expect, into a colossal war that my place of work got in the midst of( thank god they really didn't care); but the weird thing is it's not as though she and he were really throwing any good arguments my way...that I can remember quite well; they threw my way the most petty, childish arguments I ever heard; our verbal argument I won with ease, as theirs was so bad.

But one thing I couldn't get over: this guy has managed to get gals so easily...why is he so insecure with me? Bear in mind that this was about 10 years ago...I'd been told I was Autistic, but at the time didn't really know much about it....and was a lot more prone to making an ass of myself...I was also just shy of 20 years old.

Nevertheless, I kept thinking: these folks who get insecure around me...why? I'm the one who pisses people off the minute I talk to them, I'm the one who turns every woman off as soon as she meets me...what in the hell do they have to be insecure about?

I've come to realize it's being myself and not conforming--under any circumstances--that they get so insecure about...whereas they totally sold out ages ago, and as creeped out as they are, they wish they had the balls to be themselves like I do.

The biggest irony is that--when I was talking to my ex--she implied to me she still wanted to be with me.

I have the love of my life now though, so it's all good in my book...and god did my ex get uuuuuuuuuuuuuuugly!! !! !! !! !! !! !

I've had this hinted at me several times in the last year or so. My gut says that this means the idiots don't know the first thing about me. Watching anime, playing video games, enjoying weird types of comedy, reading comics. Okay they might be considered 'immature' but it's not like anyone who says that cares to look at the average age of people who enjoy these things. If we're immature for enjoying these things then maybe immaturity in adults isn't that strange. I'd say most NTs are immature by my standards. So many seem to have kids barely out of high school or grown men join gangs like they're little teenage boys who never grew up or they just go around making antisocial nuisances of themselves every weekend getting drunk and fighting. If all that crap is 'maturity' you can keep it

I agree and think that many social norms are completely arbitrary and stupid. Many people just blindly do or not do things because they think that is what is "normal".

I believe that there is a social engineering aspect to what the greater society deems as acceptable adult interests. For example, the guy who just won the Australian of the year award is a football player. The reason for the australian of the year award is to inspire the country, and it's telling that football is what the government puts forth as that which the public should be interested. In fact the vast majority of recipients of this award are sports players. This is just one manifestation of the way that we are encouraged from above to reserve our interests to the mundane. It is a mistake to fall for it.

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