Do you not care about how you look?

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I try to make sure my work clothes don't look bad enough for me to be reprimanded. I'm a manager who misses my uniform. My pants are more comfortable now. I wear the same outfit to work five days a week; I wash the shirt several times a week, but my pants feel strange so they get hung and febrezed a lot.

With my personal clothes, I wear the same outfit until it either smells funny, or gets a strange texture. But I also hate the feel of freshly washed clothes (sheets are the opposite, weirdly, but they rarely get washed). I fall asleep in my clothes often enough, but since I'm transgendered and I do binding, that usually needs to come off. I thought I'd never adjust to wearing so much tightness around my chest and kept losing jobs because I could neither force myself to handle it nor go out with breasts.

That's the only part of my appearance that matters . . . making sure I don't have to much roundness to my chest or show any hip. So that makes me look fat, but I don't care.

I've tried with my hair, but this part of the US is hot and humid, so . . . f*ck it.

About looks...our 14 - year old AS son REALY doesn´t care about his looks. although he´s very good looking, people say, tall and handsome, he gets very angry if you tell him that. he doesn´t like water on his skin, hates "smell of the washed clothes", fingernails...horror.i really struggle with him literarly every day because people simply do not understand this problem and he is totaly isolated.it makes me sad. very sad. but for now, it seems i can not reach to him. or even, should i force anything in the first place?anyone?

love to all, mamamoo

Not generally no, although that is very slowly beginning to change. I want to lose some (OK, a lot of) weight and find myself a girlfriend. Apart from that, I'm not really sure.

But I'm not interested in 'fashion' in the slightest. When I am slimmer I will make up my own fashion anyway.

I guess I care somewhat about how I look, but I'd much rather wear something that I like than something I think other people like. I don't keep up with fashions or anything. And of course comfort/clothes that are soft are important.

As for stuff like showering, fixing hair, makeup etc, I think I focus more on sensory than how it looks. I need to shower regularly because it feels weird if I go around not showering for days. I fix my hair (somewhat, lol) but I won't do anything that is uncomfortable. I basically never wear makeup cause I hate how it feels...I think the last time I wore it was a year ago.

I'm a man. I watch myself alot in the mirror, and get alot of times angry or feeling worthless because there is something wrong. Dry skin, hair not perfect, etc.

I put stuff to brown my skin a little. => I'm natural brown, but it was winter so
Lotions like everybody does. => soft and clean skin
Keep my nails clean. => Diry nails big no in every aspect of social life.
I have a dry skin so also some cremes. => medical
My hair is always short, and semi-styled but still looks natural.

Some years ago (3), I didn't care about how I look. Life was way harder back then. But I was still lucky that I have a good looking face, never had acne/ big green eyes with big lashes, curvy lips, dark brown hair and eyebrows etc. But life was a hell back then, my hair was very long and wild. My skin was not taking caring of etc.
I had to earn respect from people, teachers and even family members. So I decided to care about how I look, I knew it was very important in life, aspies and NT's.


When you look good, life is alot easier, its not right but its life.

Now I get alot faster a smile from teachers, people respect you way more and believe everything you say. Its very weird, and not fair. I was shocked by what a difference it was.
I feel like I was lucky in life now, compared with other people. Handsome people never get blamed of stuff, never.
But there is a difference about looking handsome stupid and handsome smart.

The people seen as handsome stupid are mostly people who have big muscles, but not so good looking face. People judge intelligence by looking at the face of people (and how tall they are). They look handsome, they worked there way to it.

People seen as handsome smart usually have good looking faces (and body's). You can even be seen as smart when you have a fat body, but a very good looking face.

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I really love to dress up, so I'm more likely to wear formal clothing in an informal situation. My everyday wear includes a nice black dress, good blouses and black skirts. I also love costumes, so I might go out in full goth gear (plaid dress, chunky motorcycle boots, lace up gloves, dark makeup) or even something medieval if I'm in that kind of mood. I wear a cloak regularly. Instead of looking sloppy, I usually look overdone unless I make a conscious effort to dress down.

As long as my hair is back in a pony tail (a sensory thing I think. I can't stand the feel of hair on my neck or face and need the pressure point it creates) and have some type of animal shirt ( a compulsion I think. I need to get a meerkat tatoo) on I don't give a damb what others think of me. I'm sure my colors clash now and then but then I personaly don't give a damb. Most people are too "polite" to say anything and if they did I would just shrug and say, "So?" or flip them the middle finger and say, "What makes you think I actualy give a f**k what you think?" I can be nasty. The last time I wore make up was when my little neice and I were playing around with the kind intended for kids. I couldn't handle the sensation for more than two seconds. I will never wear makeup.

I care very much: tanning, hair removal, haircut every 2 weeks, nice clothes, etc...

me i dont care how i look but being clean yes thats important i shave every 4 days my belly my crotch my chest my armpits and facial hairs, hate those areas they irritate me. but how i LOOK is determined by my sensory need that day, if i need silky im gonna wear a random colored underarmor shirt. if i need something rubbery well then on goes the black latex.

What do you mean by "textbook person"? Just wondering, because I'm the same way as well.

I care about how I look, but not for the regular reasons (fitting in?). I rarely have time to make myself look all pretty in the mornings before school. I generally like dressing up in very eccentric ways and making myself look more unlike how I normally look. Because some of my facial features remind me of my mom's facial features, and I do not want to look like her. I've always wanted to look like someone else. To hide my natural physical apprearance. To express who I really am on the inside.

Sometimes, I have the desire to dress up as a completely different person. So that I could go out and be unrecognized. So that I could start from a blank slate.

i think it's a stereotype aspie trait to wear the same clothes for days .. i thought this was because of an alleged lack of interest in hygiene, or rigid adherence to routine, but i think it could be due to sensory sensitivities just as well.

as a kid i used to wear the same clothes for three days in a row, and the only time i was ever grounded was for refusing to take a bath.

I'm a hygiene freak, and I can't get my day started until I have a shower and wash hair. Unless there's a big earthquake and the water goes out, I'm not going to be caught without a shower. Clean clothes are also a MUST. I even have to force myself to put a shirt back in the closet if I only wore it for an hour and changed my mind. However, I wear basically the same brands of the same types of clothes all the time. I hate changing brands or styles of socks or underwear, which sometimes does happen when companies change styles. Being a social klutz, I like to try to watch what other men my age (or younger) are wearing, and I copy it as best I can.

Charles

I usually care about how I look. I figure if I can look my absolute best(I consider myself fairly handsome), then I will feel better about myself and conversation/eye contact will be less awkward. I tend to feel "guilty" in my mind if I don't shave and feel like I look overly unkempt.

I take adequate care of my health but, I could care less if one sees me as ugly for, I've come to understand that true ugliness can be found in ignorance,biogtry,hatred of what you don't understand if this makes sense?

^ True words from Prof X

I have no desire to look unclean or messy. When I am out among people I wear clean clothes and I make sure I am bathed. When my hair gets too long, I have a hair cut (about every 3 weeks or so). I make sure my beard is trimmed. Getting along with folks is difficult enough. There is no need to put them off by a poor appearance.

ruveyn