Of all the Aspergers symptoms, which ones DON'T apply to you

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hale_bopp
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03 Dec 2010, 10:56 pm

I don't take stuff literally.
I cant concentrate on anything even stuff im obsessed with. I end up lying on the bed staring at the wall because of this.

I don't know about the empathy one. What is it? I mean if someone hurts an animal child or old person I get a burning anger inside me. I would want them to feel ok. If I found and injured kitten I would be upset and want to look after it and make it feel ok. I can't go upto someone and say "Oh im so sorry for bla bla bla" because I just don't feel anything. Is that empathy?



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04 Dec 2010, 1:00 am

My son is a social butterfly.



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04 Dec 2010, 1:31 am

Musical ability is supposed to go with it? Dang, I missed the boat on that one. I love listening to music, but I guess I'm not coordinated/creative enough to actually play music despite multiple attempts at various intruments. Although I am pretty good at Guitar Hero, so I can do timing and understand different sounds. Actually I'm really good at the singing part where it scores on the ability to match pitch and it makes me wish they had a system like that to tell me how to make my voice sound in conversations.



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04 Dec 2010, 1:55 am

* = yes, # = no, $ = somewhat
$ Impaired social interaction
$ Clumsiness
# Uncoordinated motor movements
# Limited interests
* Unusual preoccupations
# Repetitive routines or rituals
# Speech and language peculiarities
* Non-verbal communication problems
# Word repetition
# Few facial expressions - apart from anger or misery
# Excellent rote memory
# Musical ability
# Intense focus on one or two subjects
# Being "in their own world"
# Preoccupied with their own agenda
* Lack of empathy
# Deviant verbal communication
# Deviant nonverbal communication
* Idiosyncratic attachment to inanimate objects
# Eccentric personality
$ Socially unadapted personality
* Particular aptitude e.g. arithmetic
# Flat, cheerless demeanor
# Single-mindedness
$ Social withdrawal
$ Lack of interest in other people
# Poor coordination



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04 Dec 2010, 10:24 am

I've never had sensory overloads and likely never will.

Sound - I've slept through machinery that was 10 feet away and we have both our fire alarms go off simultaneously fairly often. It merely annoys me.
Light - I stared directly into the Sun unprotected for 5-10 minutes solid at one point in my life. My vision's completely intact.
Touch - Depends on who/what's touching me, really. Make of that what you will.

But then, I'm one of the few Aspergians who is "more blessed than cursed", so to speak.


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04 Dec 2010, 10:59 am

I'm able to pick on social cues.



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04 Dec 2010, 11:33 am

-Lack of empathy.
-Lack of imagination.
-Literal-ness.



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04 Dec 2010, 12:00 pm

I'm rubbish at maths.
I've learned to pick up facial queues and body language.
I can (with considerable effort) shut up about my special interests in social situations.
I'm great with metaphor, poetry, literary fiction.

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# Impaired social interaction~ HAVE, but I've worked on it, no longer awful.
# Clumsiness~ HAVE, a lot of work went into it, but I learned martial arts, to ride a bike, to touch type and play several instruments. But I can't drive a car and I walk into walls.
# Uncoordinated motor movements~ HAVE, see above.
# Limited interests~ DON'T HAVE I have wide interests, but very deep and obsessive.
# Unusual preoccupations~ HAVE (some of this may be schizoaffective bipolar related.)
# Repetitive routines or rituals~ HAVE
# Speech and language peculiarities~ HAVE, my speech is overly formal, intellectual, and old fashioned. I speak in sentences and paragraphs, and cringe when others are ungrammatical.
# Non-verbal communication problems~ In large groups I lose my ability to judge body language, facial expression, tone of voice, and can't turn any distractions "down." I become obviously "weird", and this has caused a lot of social difficulty.
# Word repetition~ DON'T HAVE
# Few facial expressions - apart from anger or misery~ My mother trained me in that from a young age, and now I'm pretty good at it.
# Excellent rote memory~ Depends. Linguistics, poetry, literature, music... fine. Anything else, rubbish.
# Musical ability~ HAVE (perfect pitch, several instruments, excellent singing voice, perfect recall of music heard.)
# Intense focus on one or two subjects~ HAVE At a time... but they change every six months to a year or so, with the result I seem to know a lot about a wide range of subjects. But when I'm obsessed with something I'm completely obsessed, and I never completely lose my fascination for a subject, once I've had it.
# Being "in their own world"~ Definitely HAVE this one. (Gets very bad when I'm psychotic.)
# Preoccupied with their own agenda~ What agenda?
# Lack of empathy~ DON'T HAVE... in fact, I have too much empathy.
# Deviant verbal communication~ Sometimes when I'm stressed I forget what language I'm in, and even occasionally jumble up several together, so it sounds like gibberish.
# Deviant nonverbal communication~ HAVE NOT, I've worked on it, thought apparently sometimes I look "aloof" and "Spock like."
# Idiosyncratic attachment to inanimate objects~ HAVE Yes, I love my guitar. She has a name.
# Eccentric personality~ HAVE So I'm told.
# Socially unadapted personality~ Not sure what this means. Probably.
# Particular aptitude e.g. arithmetic~ Music, linguistics, literature.
# Flat, cheerless demeanor~ NO.
# Single-mindedness~ HAVE
# Social withdrawal~ HAVE when I'm overwhelmed.
# Lack of interest in other people~ DON'T HAVE
# Poor coordination~HAVE though in some areas (music, martial arts) I'm fine.



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04 Dec 2010, 12:35 pm

Lack of motivation to share interests or achievements with others.

I'm a bit too eager to share things with others, to the point where I end up elaborately thinking through how I'm going to present things to them. I'm just a very expressive person.

I also don't have an overly flat tone of voice because I've worked on it.


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04 Dec 2010, 3:30 pm

I don't lack empathy. I can notice when someone doesn't want to talk about something. I have no problems interpreting facial expressions, and I can make eye contact.

I don't have a need for routine or schedules, though I prefer knowing what to expect when going into a foreign situation. I have minor stims, but not something which I think rises beyond normal fidgeting. I'm not particularly clumsy or uncoordinated, though not very great at sports either.

I don't have problems with inflection, though I often don't speak loud enough at first. I think this is more due to a lack of practice than due to a lack of control, as I can speak at proper volume once the conversation is underway. I have no problem understanding sarcasm, humor, or figures of speech and use them myself.

I don't really get narrow "special interests". I may become interested in a certain topic for a little while (a week or so) but I don't obsess over it and they're not strangely narrow.

Overall, I'm beginning to kind of doubt my diagnosis. While I know I had more symptoms and problems as a child, I don't think it is relevant to me anymore. I wouldn't get diagnosed today.



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04 Dec 2010, 6:02 pm

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# Impaired social interaction
# Clumsiness
# Uncoordinated motor movements
# Limited interests
# Unusual preoccupations
# Repetitive routines or rituals
# Speech and language peculiarities
# Non-verbal communication problems (I would like all communication to be nonverbal so I don't have to talk)
# Word repetition
# Few facial expressions - apart from anger or misery
# Excellent rote memory
# Musical ability
# Intense focus on one or two subjects
# Being "in their own world"
# Preoccupied with their own agenda
# Lack of empathy
# Deviant verbal communication
# Deviant nonverbal communication
# Idiosyncratic attachment to inanimate objects
# Eccentric personality
# Socially unadapted personality (just half because it's artificial and it's still not very good)
# Particular aptitude e.g. arithmetic
# Flat, cheerless demeanor
# Single-mindedness
# Social withdrawal
# Lack of interest in other people
# Poor coordination


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04 Dec 2010, 8:07 pm

schleppenheimer wrote:
I don't know if this is correct or not, but I think that I have read that some Aspies aren't necessarily empathetic because they miss the social cues that would trigger empathy.

My son (14 years) has amazing empathy. He may not pick up on other things, but boy, he really gets it when someones is upset or sad.


Base emotions we pick up on easily, it is the more subtle things that we often struggle with essentially. The thing is human emotion is subtle and nuanced. I mean I can tell if somebody is in pain, that is not to difficult. It is the other things that get difficult, reading emotions that may be core within a relationship context. I think it is why people with ASD struggle with interpersonal relationships.



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04 Dec 2010, 11:16 pm

Except for missing facial cues [most of the time], all of those apply to me. I think I get the facial clue-ins because because I watch a lot of Disney and read a lot of comics that highly emphasize on facial cues. Everything is is so typical of me...



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04 Dec 2010, 11:30 pm

I don't lack imagination (unless by imagination you mean actually picturing things in your mind - I do have trouble with that - but I can be creative).

I'm not interested in dates or strings of numbers.


Pretty much everything else I seem to have.



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05 Dec 2010, 12:13 am

I think they almost all apply to some extent, some more obvious then others but its there.

I just noticed the previous person's message ... I do have imagination tho, when someone tells me about something I imagine the whole scene/situation. And also I am into design, graphics and others.


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05 Dec 2010, 12:21 am

Shadi2 wrote:
I just noticed the previous person's message ... I do have imagination tho, when someone tells me about something I imagine the whole scene/situation. And also I am into design, graphics and others.


I've read that many people with AS have very high visual/spatial reasoning abilities, and average or poor verbal abilities, and that many with AS also have the opposite, high verbal abilities but average or low visual/spatial.