Do You Get Scared When People Wanna Be Friends w/You?

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Yes........the same suspicion as most other people here have talked about. I'm usually pleased as well, but I often feel tempted to back out. It's not just what they might do, I'm not sure I can keep up the effort, I tend to fear that sooner or later I'll screw up. But mostly it's been others who have screwed up, as far as I can see. I've found that people can seem very Jekyll-and-Hyde. They have mood swings.

I think it's called social anxiety isn't it? I think it's not just autistic people that get this. Nobody with any sense would feel 100% trust for a relative stranger.

well right now I have a constant fear of also screwing up when it comes to having friends-I felt like it was happening again but I think its just a false alarm -I have had so very few friends over the years and I get over zealous and over attached very quickly to a person I really like and invariably screw things up big time-I really feel like a broken person and am unworthy of the friendship of another person.

Yes.
I'm afraid that if people know me more, they'll like me less. (Like they'll think I'm too weird, or too boring, etc.)

No, I get hurt when people don't want to hang out with me, but when they actually make an effort to hang out with me then I get uncomfortable.
Edit: I can get angry when people want to hang out with me, but it hasn't a lot. But people often send what seems like mixed signals about whether they want to talk to me.

I used to beat myself up about it...like up until a few weeks ago when I'd heard of this site.

I'm thinking that unless I want to take the time to re-learn social skills (much like what my 4 year old is doing now) then I just have to let myself off the hook. Someone here said that people will want to be around you for a lot of unknowable reasons; I just want to enjoy the attention I get for however briefly they want to be around me.
Not like I'm going to get that attached anyway then, is there?

I'd say if you were youngish, say less than 25, it'd be worth trying to work your way through it. IF that's what you really want.

I get nervous when I talk to new people, but excited and happy at the same time. I often start shaking though.

Actually for some reason I do get scared of talking to friends and if they want to be friends with me but I seem to feel like that more with females.

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If someone wants to be friends, it makes me very nervous. I have an affable persona at work and school, so people often like me, so I suppose there are people who consider me a friend. I do not consider any of them to be friends, however. And if people come up and ask me about attending something with them I get really unnerved.

Sometimes I can't tell if a person is hitting on me or just trying to be my friend. A couple of months ago, a guy got into a conversation with me. He was very friendly and interesting, but then he asked for my number. I assumed that this meant that he was interested in me as a potential girlfriend, so I told him that I didn't give out my number. To this day, I don't know if he was just being friendly or if he was hitting on me. In hindsight I would like to try being his friend, but now I don't have any of his contact information. I want to make friends, but I am always suspicious of other people's motives. I have had instances in which people only talked to me to expose how weird I was to their friends.

From bad experiences in the past, yes I do get paranoid and wary when people want to be friends with me.

I constantly wonder in my mind if they only want to be friends with me so they can exploit/take advantage of me in the future...

That being said, not all NTs are evil and I have several friends who are NTs, although I have to admit from experience I can say that a much greater proportion of NTs are malicious compared to Aspies because they can identify who is vulnerable and target them for bullying and psychopathy.