Does being touched when you don't want it upset you?

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I do not really like being touched in general....but if I am in a relationship I don't mind some touching but even then nothing excessive. I broke up with the first guy I dated because he was too clingy and I could not take it. But yeah as much as I hate people touching me I don't attack someone if they touch me I either get really stiff and uncomfortable looking and so they realise I dont really like being touched. If the touch startles, me I might freak out and maybe yell at them not to do that again but I wont hold a grudge about it. Recently my brother tried poking me to get my attention, it startled me so I yelled at him but he understood I was startled and I understood he was not trying to do any harm.

I don't like being touched by strangers or acquaintances or co-workers. It's just too personal for me. I keep my hands to myself, & wish others would learn to do the same.

I do not really like being touched in general....but if I am in a relationship I don't mind some touching but even then nothing excessive. I broke up with the first guy I dated because he was too clingy and I could not take it. But yeah as much as I hate people touching me I don't attack someone if they touch me I either get really stiff and uncomfortable looking and so they realise I dont really like being touched. If the touch startles, me I might freak out and maybe yell at them not to do that again but I wont hold a grudge about it. Recently my brother tried poking me to get my attention, it startled me so I yelled at him but he understood I was startled and I understood he was not trying to do any harm.

I told her to stop touching me everytime. She did not touch me until a waitress who went to high school with me told her I was known for freaking out and getting into fights with people for hugging me. She kept on escalating her touching doing it more often whenever other workers were around. She did it to get everyone to laugh at me. I will never feel bad for beaming her in the back with lettuce or calling her a whore besides she was laughing when she ran off even more when I tagged her with the lettuce. I told her every time to stop, the boss told her stop, and the other waitresses told her to stop. She did not stop until I nearly severed my finger tips. It happened in the early 90's and my fingers are still scared.She also told everybody the reason I did not like being touched was because I was molested as a child. (I was not molested just autistic) Because of her they were asking me to show them where the bad man touched me eveytime they had a chicken in their hand like one of those dolls they use in courts and asked if I need a rubber seat donut eveytime they saw me sit down. So f**k her.

Well I suppose it would be hard to control yourself it was a constant thing and she would not stop even when asked...in the first post I did not see anything about you asking her to stop before it escalated that much. so yeah, and its suprising the boss did not fire her if he saw what was going on and that she would not stop harrasing.

That boss half assed everything when it came to policing his employees it was like Animal House we had underage workers stealing beer then puking behind the dumpsters he thought that was funny. A manager was calling a 15 year old female employee giving her obscene phone calls until we caught him doing it the boss thought that was hysterical and told us to grow up. The manager's wife was so drunk pulling out of the parking lot taking out a fence was the funniest thing ever she had a 20 minute drive to get home.

It was worse in school especially gym everyone pretty much knew I did not like being touched so they would dog pile on top of me. The school only made them quit doing it because an idiot fell off the top the dog pile breaking his colar bone.

Damn that had to have sucked.....they should have made them quit doing it because you don't like it, not cause an idiot broke their neck while joining with harrasment. But yeah my school experiances where not so great either.

What sucked for me they thought I had ADHD and was put in special education classes. The special education system at my school system in the 70's and 80's was nothing more than a warehouse. The classes were filled with the worst trouble makers so when I was in gym, art, or studyhall teachers saw the letters ICAP next to a student's name they automatically knew you were a trouble maker so they always figured I was starting it so they let the idiots mess with me. My last two years of high school was in mainsstream classes but the letters were still next to my name on all lists. Funny thing is when I went in for my Asperger's diagnosis in 2010 they found no sign of ADHD or anytype of learning disability.

I don't like being touched either I had this friend who used to pinch I gave her an earful.
I think people should keep their hands to themselves, and not invade othe peoples" personal space.

Very often. Today there was this tramp who is a regular on the bus when I go to the stores. He shuffles up the aisle reeking of heaven knows what only today he went past and then I realised he was sitting right behind me, then as he sat down he put a hand on my shoulder, I shouted very loudly "DON'T TOUCH ME!" and quickly moved to the back of the bus. I felt like I had been infected.

If that would have happened to me I would have come up swinging or at least threatening to attack if anyone gave me a suprise touch on my shoulder regardless of bum or a businessman. I once walked to a store in the winter some guy thought it would be funny to touch my bare neck with his cold hands after coming in from the cold to suprise me. I turned around then pushed him into shopping carts and I was asking "why did you touch me?" he said "I am sorry." then he walked out of the store. I would never do that to someone I did not know, what if they had a heart attack.

I'd rather be stabbed with a large hypodermic in the a$$! I just don't understand why people think it's OK to reach out and pat or poke. It's just mean, if they know you don't like it. AND I HATE IT!! !! ! When someone does it, I know they don't understand if they're a stranger just met, or a casual acquaintance, so I try to cope. But I can't help flinching and pulling away; it's just a reflex like hitting my funny bone. People sometimes act like I'm offended by them, but I'm not offended by THEM at all... Just the invasion of the touch. I wish people would just abandon that custom of having to PAW someone when they're praising or explaining something. I guess I'm OK with hand shaking, but that's less invasive because my arm is extended, and there's still some buffer zone of separation.

Charles

You would not believe how many people I offended or made into enemies by pulling away from an unwanted touch. Some people take it hard when you tell them please don't touch me. I even have been accused of being stuck up.

The only person I feel comfortable making physical contact with (giving or receiving) is my girlfriend of 6 years. I can shake someone's hand in a business situation, otherwise I am really uncomfortable with it. Hugging family members on a special occasion takes lots of planning and courage to actually do it, and I feel strangely proud and elated afterwards because I have been able to do it. One of my colleagues son has Autism but he is the opposite - touches and hugs everyone. I feel very uncomfortable around him, and try and turn a hug into a "high five" if I can.

Being touched, when not expecting it - impulse is to yank away whatever is being touched, but I immediately realize that's not the commonly accepted response. I doubt the shock and surprise in my eyes is well hidden though.

Being touched, when I am expecting it - the nerve endings scream at me at the point of contact. Not quite pain, but a visceral creeping physical panic sensation that's very hard to put into words. However, I mask this pretty well.

Had a lady friend hug me once, pull back and say, "You're not a hugger, are you?" to which I responded no, not really, She instinctively understood, and I greatly appreciated her response.

Yes people are often very touchy about being pushed away. It sends my brain into overdrive when it happens to me, and I have to fight some very strong feelings of being undesirable and repugnant.......I used to automatically get angry and hurl abuse, but I became a bit more understanding in time. And I don't take the kind of risks that would let it happen much....anybody who suddenly grabs somebody else ought to know that they're doing it at their own risk.