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Do you hate the question "How are you?"
Poll ended at 05 Mar 2011, 11:45 pm
Hate it 69%  69%  [ 47 ]
neutral 29%  29%  [ 20 ]
Love it! 1%  1%  [ 1 ]
Total votes : 68

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22 Sep 2011, 4:40 am

Deep down inside, I loathe it, even though the (heavily mimicked) emotions I express when I say it may suggest otherwise. I suck it up and go through the motions. because as soon as it's over with, we can talk about more interesting stuff.


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22 Sep 2011, 9:55 am

I sometimes respond with something that for me, I consider to be amusing

Someone: 'Hi, how are you doing?'
Me: 'I've hit rock bottom actually, can we go somewhere and discuss it'

With a deadpan delivery this sometimes leads to a bit of confusion so otherwise it will always be 'Not too bad, you?' I don't wait around for a response to 'you?' because I don't need to know.



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22 Sep 2011, 10:04 am

Part of my job is talking to paying customers on the phone.
They almost always begin by saying "how are you?"

I always answer "I'm fine; how are you?"

It costs nothing to be polite and besides it would be seen as odd if I didn't reply in such a way.

Yes; as an Aspie I see the silly nonesense of it all but would rather comform that be seen as odd in their eyes..
After all these people are paying my salary indirectly so why not make the effort.



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22 Sep 2011, 7:08 pm

piroflip wrote:
Part of my job is talking to paying customers on the phone.
They almost always begin by saying "how are you?"

I always answer "I'm fine; how are you?"

It costs nothing to be polite and besides it would be seen as odd if I didn't reply in such a way.

Yes; as an Aspie I see the silly nonesense of it all but would rather comform that be seen as odd in their eyes..
After all these people are paying my salary indirectly so why not make the effort.


For me is a case of egocentrism and narcissism.
I don't say "hi", "hello", "good morning", "good bye".
I don't want to accept the existence of the others.



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22 Sep 2011, 8:39 pm

I hate "What's up?" even more.


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