Does anyone here almost not speak at all?

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I don't think my mother is AS, but she has a few traits (she makes lists and schedules, she gets really angry if something is moved from its regular place, a few other things). She's more inattentive ADHD than anything, but self-medicated on nicotine.

The autism thing, she had to tell me about one of her grandsons, who had all these problems (being diagnosed as autistic) that I didn't have, but who is still doing better than I did at the same age. I wasn't able to even get to the point of bringing it up about myself. I actually think my biological father is AS. It helps that one of the coping mechanisms Tony Attwood put in the complete guide is a virtually perfect description of his lifelong behavior. I am not sure this will help, though.

Haha! I can so relate to this.

I gave up on my parents a long time ago. What's the point? I had to be a complete masochist to continue on drudging at that inane ret*d nonsense. Besides which, they were also both psychologically abusive, so there's much of a reason not to talk to them - but yes, now I'm left with the great problem of loneliness. Every time I feel depressed I realize how they completely destroyed any possible social life I could have had from a young age (by either actively not helping or directly hindering me). So currently I'm plagued by both social anxiety and a desire not to be alone, and this has always ended badly thus far.

I almost never talk in real life. Unless someone makes the mistake of bringing up one of my interests, and then my brain goes into berserker mode and I run my mouth for too long while they get bored.

That's basically how I am. In fact I rarely express myself even in writing. If I am ever going to have friends, I need to find people who think it is friendly to say nothing and have no particular facial expression.

Occasionally I am surprised when I have an interaction with someone and I see, by contrast, how much of my life is spent in strict issolation from others.

It happens to me too. But I am more comfortable talking to my younger siblings. I talk to my mom when she talks to me or when Its absolutely necessary. Apart from them, I rarely ever talk on my own.

Theres a man in my country with AS who was completely wrongly convicted of rape. When he was sent to Jail he completely stopped talking. He was in for 18 months and never spoke once.
He's out now (recently) and been pardoned and compensated and is back talking at a normal level.

I don't think I've spoke more than 200 words today. Maybe no more than 100. I've never counted. I don't talk much, but if I do say something, I expect you to shut up and listen to the words of wisdom.

I probably still count by NT standards, but it was much more when I was younger. Nowadays I talk more, when needed in situations, but sometimes I get exhausted and end up stopping understanding what people are saying to me. I still hate it when strangers say something to me. I rarely understand what they're saying until about five seconds of delay, which is more than is typical for me, since the talk comes unexpected, when by contrast in a classroom I expect someone to be talking.

I can handle one on one contact and a small group of about 3 or 4 people. I can't speak in large groups and I can't keep track of the conversations either, that's when I stop talking. Having a conversation in a noisy environment is a disaster as well.

There were only 5 people I would speak to on a regular basis, only people I trusted. Nowadays it's more like 3. I hate conversation.

I can relate to that. Conversations can be so empty and pointless.

I talk more to people in the last few years. I've said a few times out of frustration that I hate talking. A lot of times when I try to say something, even something relatively short, the words in the sentence comes out the wrong way or there is some difficulty with talking clearly. So often what I say is often pretty basic and or can't think of how to say something and use words to try to explain with least amount of words.
But at the same time, I've talked a lot about things that interest me but with some things can't get the other person to grasp what I am saying so then I get frustrated.
I haven't had very much conversations in my life. I'm also not that interested in talking to people in general. I'd prefer to do something or laugh.
I talked to my conselor about selective mutism and he thought it sounds like what I have been like but he's more focused on the auttistic spectrum stuff.

probably like 50 if that maybe more. i try to cut out talking as much as possible.

From grade 9-10 I didn't talk at all unless I absolutely needed to. People thought I was mute and mentally ret*d. I've been rapidly becoming more social though. I have no intention of going back to that.

my talking is always at a minimum

I havent thought of it, but I dont verbally speak much to anyone who isnt family. It never really occured to me until now.