I keep getting picked on in public. What do I do?! !! !

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NT's notice the details, but they do so in a more seamless way (so they may not always be aware of it). I like to think of NT vs Aspie thinking in terms of an "integration". The NT notices the details and immediately pieces everything together to form one whole image, whereas the Aspie may notice all the tiny details and not see the big picture. The information is the same, but the way that it's processed is different.

Does that make any sense?

NT's notice the details, but they do so in a more seamless way (so they may not always be aware of it). I like to think of NT vs Aspie thinking in terms of an "integration". The NT notices the details and immediately pieces everything together to form one whole image, whereas the Aspie may notice all the tiny details and not see the big picture. The information is the same, but the way that it's processed is different.

Does that make any sense?

Is it possible for an aspie to see the big picture except they see it in a different way?

Mom told me I process things differently and view things differently than lot of people do. I know that lot of people view things differently but the difference is all of them can still see the same picture and understand other perspectives and see their point of view while I would have trouble with it and still not see it because I'd be somewhere else meaning only see the big picture I created that isn't the same as everyone else sees. I wonder if NTs would still call this missing the big picture just because it's different?

Well, in that case, I shan't want to go out any more, knowing that NTs haven't got anything better to do than to worry about what a silly girl is doing.

If you dress normal and act normal, you'll be left alone as that characterizes the majority.

I do dress normally and act normally. Yesterday I passed a woman who was throwing her arms about whilst talking aloud to herself, and she looked kind of nutty, and no, she wasn't talking on an earphone or anything. Then the day before I saw a guy sitting on his own on a bench, shouting at the top of his voice at nobody in particular - just calling out rude things to random people. He looked pretty scary. I never do those sorts of things. I just be normal, like anyone else.

Where are you, again? The nutter farm?

Lately I found I keep being picked on for no reason in public, by middle-aged woman mostly, when I'm by myself, and I find it rather insulting now because it makes me paranoid that it might be because I look weird and dumb, and I make so much effort to go out looking presentable and behaving normal, and so I should deserve respect. I dress fashionably, with a trendy handbag (like a normal woman), and I stand up straight with my hands by my sides (which is how most people stand), and I often wear sunglasses when it's sunny (which actually make me look a little older than what I am). I even wear expensive trainers - those nice trainers what are in fashion. So I don't do anything to stand out at all. If I was excessively fiddling with my hands or flapping my hands about or pacing about nervously, they yeah, I expect some rudeness (although it shouldn't be so, but I was talking from an NT's point of view there). But I look pretty ''normal'' for an Aspie with social anxiety and agoraphobia, and I make a lot of effort to look like any other normal 21-year-old female.

I just find random strangers are acting so rude towards me lately, and the other day it really made me cry, and I felt like I was back at school again. I was sitting on the bus with my bag on the seat next to me, and a random woman just marched on, picked up my bag, threw it on my lap, and sat in the seat next to me - even though there were plenty of other empty seats. And I thought that was really rude of her. Then I sat and thought, ''would she have done it to anybody else who had their bag on the seat next to them?'' And it made me feel uncomfortable for the rest of the day.

Also, today when I was sitting on the bus, I had some college students sitting behind me, and one of them knocked their knees right into the back of my seat, and a few seconds later they done it again then I heard them snigger. I didn't react - I sat facing forwards, without shifting, so it looked like I was ignoring it, but it made me angry because I thought even if I did have an uncomfident face, they couldn't see it because they were sitting behind me, and from the back I just looked like any other calm normal person. Why don't people just leave me alone?! !!

I'm not sure if this happens to everyone, but I've noticed people walk into me all the time, even though they see me. And I don't walk into them - I see them then move aside to give way to them.

I know this sounds childish, but I am really reluctant to wear glasses, because I have a feeling this will make people pick on me even more. (Yes - I wouldn't expect it from adults either, but here we are). My mum always says, ''you are not at school now - why are you so afraid to wear glasses?'' Yes, I've learnt that glasses don't make you look like a geek at all, but some people still haven't learnt that (and then they say Aspies are the ones who are immature! ) I particularly need glasses to wear all the time, but I need them for seeing things from a long distance, otherwise I scrint all the time when I'm trying to read a sign across the road or something like that.

People never did this to me. Only very recently. It is horrible, and unexplainable, and 9 out of 10 times I cry when I come home. I never get picked on at work. People think I'm NT, and they treat me like any other person, and I even get fancied by men, and I've made a lot of friends. I just don't get it.