Autism = thin skins?

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I get told all the time I am too sensitive which is why I never told anyone when I was bullied if I said anything I would be told"You're too sensitive"

I think you personally are pretty much trolling by making threads like this and your other threads. Either that or you're like, so low functioning/socially bad that you somehow cannot understand that making threads like that will piss off people. I do agree somewhat with the premise of your threads, though, just it seems you are purposely trying to be provocative and evoke an emotional response from the people on this board.

To answer your question, I think the main difference at least in my life, I'm not quite able to navigate subtleties very well. I don't know how to play the "game" of fake fighting, or messing around or whatever. Even like rough housing, I was never exposed to it as a child, living with only sisters and not socializing with other kids much ever outside of school. So when I got older, and even as older teenagers, people like screwing around like that, I never "got it." I could only understand not fighting or full on fighting.

One thing for me, and "playful" fighting or name calling or whatever, I see it as disrespect directed toward me. Like, my youth pastor would randomly punch me in the back and one time even lightly kicked me in the ass. I told him multiple times, from the first time doing it, to not do it, that I don't like to be touched like that, etc, and he kept on doing it. I told him I see it as disrespect, especially coming from my background of being in jail, etc, and he just told me I was crazy, and it was his way of showing love toward me. BS. He's disrespecting me, and I cannot see that kind of behavior as anything more than disrespect. So, when people try to do it verbally to me, same type of thing. I see it as disrespect, and if someone doesn't respect me, that means he's looking to take advantage of me or at the very least will if circumstances are right. I'm guessing this is an adaptation for me, I'm sure 99% of people do not look at things in a manner as such, but in my personal relations with people, generally the only "social cues" I can see are respect and disrespect, that's all I can pick up. Now, with that in mind, I have to act as intelligently as I possibly can when I sense what I perceive as disrespect towards me. I obviously can't just, say, punch people for disrespecting me, but I know in my future dealings with them that they think that and to act accordingly. I'm also aware, too, most likely not nearly as well, if I've disrespected someone else subtly, too. That's all I'm aware of, though.

Oh well.

I realize now after reading the first post that this is about more than asking if aspies are thin skinned/ sensitive. Regardless I'll answer the original question. I was not thin skinned as a kid, at least I did not come off that way, because I was so oblivious to people intentions I didn't realize when they were making fun of me, or being mean to me. I actually had a lot less problems with being teased than my sisters, as I never reacted (got mad, cried etc) . I remember other kids saying things like " Do you bathe?" and I would say " Yes, I took a bath yesterday". Its kind of funny to think back on it because I now realize that they were trying to imply "you skink" but I didn't pick up on that at the time.

I guess I'm still oblivious, I have no idea what WP issues this thread seems to be addressing.
I've been in a few good humored sparring matches on here and never felt like anyone was attacking me or being mean. I hope anyone involved felt the same in regards to my posts.

I haven't spend much time on other forums to compare, but I've been suprised/ impressed by how sensitive and understanding people are on here. Remember once in the post a pic thread someone saying to a womens picture " You have a pretty face, I bet you have a pretty p**** ".
Of course a lot of people pointed out how inappropriate that was. In response someone said that Tony Attwood in one of his books, said that aspies often do not know what is appropriate in any given situation, and the poster probably meant it as a joke and was unaware of how it could come across (also mentioned that they had read other posts and he genuinely did seem to have aspergers). I can't see something like that happening on another forum.