My life is a series of misunderstandings

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They didn't know. Both had been in trouble with the law but they could get the better of everyone they met so it wasn't a big problem. First thing that tipped me off was they had monsters in their peripheral vision but could see completely clearly out the front at whatever they were directly engaging with. Also they could effortlessly become whoever anyone wanted them to be. Very cool.

Actually what I was going to say is that my life is a series of humiliations. But I guess most if not all of those of those originate from misunderstandings.

For years I've had all these unanswered questions about the way things happen with other people. Like why do people get mad at me and I never really know why? Why do they get these crazy ideas about what they think I'm doing? How can a whole group of people get an idea about me that is totally wrong, and yet they all believe it and think they are right and won't hear any other possibility?

Why do people just seem to see something about me, when they don't even know me, and they automatically treat me different? Just like I am marked in some way I don't even know about.

Why do I seem to always have a different idea about what is going on than other people do? And I just have to gradually figure it out, because no one tells me, they just assume that I know.

It's been a lot of different situations, all different kinds of scenarios with people and some are too embarrassing to even mention. Really awful, humiliating experiences. I replay a lot of them in my mind still trying to figure it out.

For the first time in my life, I feel like maybe I have an answer to all the whys: Asperger's. It is the simplest explanation for why I am so clueless and all these bizarre misunderstandings happen to me.

I don't want to make any assumptions about whether or not this is really the answer so I am really trying to learn as much as I can about it and study it objectively. I am still looking for other possible explanations.

I am just wondering, does knowing the cause of the misunderstandings help anything? Does it make some of the misunderstandings go away?

I don't feel like there is even one person in the world who really gets me or knows me at all, and that is the real loneliness. It would not matter if I am surrounded by people, if none of them ever understand me.

My life is just one big confusion, because my question is always, ''how come it's acceptable if NTs do it but if I do the exact same thing it is unacceptable?'' And it's like that all the time. If somebody rudely butts into a conversation, people politely listen. If I butt into a conversation not so rudely, I get looks and glares. I just can't make it out and I never will for as long as I live.

It's called the hierarchy. It's how they work. You must have read about it on this site by now. You wouldn't understand ants without learning about the colony or bees without the hive.

You could have a pity party! Yay!

You're young and you have more information about how the world works than 99.9999% of the people who live in it. If you can't apply yourself and get ahead...

If someone misunderstands something that someone with aspergers had tried to communication; logically it would make sense that the to person with aspergers hasn't communicated effectively. Afterall, aspergers only effects one party in communication with NTs as pointed out.

What if an NT infers something that the person with Asperger's wasn't trying to communicate at all?

I would say that Asperger's affects both parties in communication. And likewise, the other person being NT also affects both parties. The person with AS misunderstands NT communication, and the NT person misunderstands AS communication. It goes both ways.

I just don't understand why they put that on the Autistic criteria only, because NTs don't understand us as much as we don't understand NTs, so it's just a normal human trait to be misunderstanding of people who are different in any way. But they still blame it all on the Autistic people and let the NTs get away scot-free with being misunderstand and unempathetic towards Aspies.

I know people misunderstand me because I'm different from them, I just want to know WHY I'm so different. If it's because of AS or something else. I know a lot of the more specific reasons why I'm different, but none of those reasons are comprehensive, and even taken all together they don't explain everything.